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Discipline at Boarding School

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Alanauk · 08/02/2023 22:48

My daughter is at a boarding school and she called me this week telling me that she snapped and threw her phone through the window (in anger from something she was doing) and broke a window. Her room is in a second floor so the glass could have fallen on someone. It was all an accident but of course, she should be punished. Do you think she could be suspended this? I cannot sleep thinking about this and the housemistress has not decided yet on a sanction. This is her first year boarding and everything for us is very new.

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ACynicalDad · 08/02/2023 22:52

I’d be very surprised, but expect a new windows pane on the school bill.

TheUndoing · 08/02/2023 22:55

I’d be really concerned at that sort of violent, destructive behaviour from a child. Is she getting support to help manage her frustration? I’d expect the school to take it quite seriously to be honest

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/02/2023 22:58

Why are you worrying about the bill instead of why she had such a violent outburst?

That is very worrying behaviour. I would have been on the phone to the school straight away, but you're waiting for them to contact you with a bill and/or sections for your daughter?

Does she even want to be at boarding school?

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 08/02/2023 22:58

Sanctions not sections, sorry for typo.

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Alanauk · 08/02/2023 23:03

Of course I have contacted the school but they have not made a decision yet. We are getting a psychologist too. She has always managed her anger... I don't know what happened. I am not worried about any bills, more worried about a sanction being fair for her action. Not at all justifying anything.

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Alanauk · 08/02/2023 23:05

She loves the school and loves the sports and classes. Really happy in school. But in teh end,a teenager who may need to have some counseling.

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Aixellency · 08/02/2023 23:13

@GreenFingersWouldBeHandy the OP didn’t mention ‘the bill’. That was a different poster.

I don’t know, @Alanauk , I guess they’ll make a decision based partly on how she usually behaves and whether this was a one-off. Also on whether there was any aggression towards any other pupil or member of staff.

But you might have been better to post this thread in the Boarding School topic - to avoid its being derailed.

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Alanauk · 08/02/2023 23:14

I will do that! thank you!!

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custardbear · 08/02/2023 23:15

I'd be co car Ed, really concerned about her behaviour if it's unusual particularly.
If she's often like that then she needs to learn a lesson

Nevermindthesquirrels · 09/02/2023 10:35

This isn't normal teen behaviour to be honest. Does she get angry a lot?

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