How to deal with bragging mum?

[hannah78a]

There's this particular mum that keeps going on about how amazing her dc is, she seems to think her dc is the best at everything. She seems obsessed with target grades and says her DC has the highest targets in the whole school because of the amazing ks2 sats results her "genius" dc had. Now this child is in the same year group as my dc and they sit together in some of the lessons. My DC has mentioned that this DC targets for year 11 are apparently 6+ and 7- (DC seems to brag about it just like mum), so no doubt good grades but certainly not genius. DC seems to be very talented in everything else (obviosuly!), music, art, sports, which is great but mum cannot stop bragging about it and I'm just fed of listening to her. So I guess my question is how do you all deal with mums like this?

Just ignore her.

The only people who extreme boast about their children’s intellect are always pretty thick themselves I have observed

Tell her to Google “narcissistic parenting.”.

Agree. It’s tiresome but you tune out and excuse yourself so you don’t have to hear it

Parenting is a long game.
my children are now grown up and I can reflect on the bragging mums - whose kids did not seem to fulfil their genius potential.
if your own kids are happy and sociable- be happy because these are the life skills they need - much more than any bragging parent will ever know

You should stop being a sofa psychiatrist. Being braggy & effusive is not narcissistic parenting

Mrs Brown's "that's nice"

Avoid if possible.
Or just say "That's nice" and then change the subject to whatever.
"Good for him" - change the subject.
Don't engage - change the subject. If necessary, say, sorry can't stop for a chat got a dentist appointment and having a root canal without anaesthetic which is way more pleasant than listen to this drivel

I purposely avoid. Mine is a lovely friend, and before kids was equally intense in her conversation with me about every aspect of her life and job. I've always found it stressful, but I do realise that in part it's my insecurities that mean I can't deal with her. I am older now and am happy with my own personal life choices, but still feel a bit anxious when thinking about my kids' futures.
We both fundamentally want the best for our children, but have very different approaches in to how to achieve that. Hers is a military style operation involving multiple personnel and outsourcing in order for maximum outcome.
Mine is very different, and in part down to the fact that I believe in parenting the child I have, rather than modelling the child to the type of parenting I want to do and preconceived results.

Why not play games with her.

I used to get into conversations with competitive parents and try to act sooo interested it used to shock me how they didnt realise how false i was being. Loads of WOWS, AMAZINGS, UNBELIEVABLES. I would look them deep in the eyes and hang on every word. Encouraging them to carry on

I would check my watch to see how long the conversation lasted without them once ever asking about my own child.

I never quite got to the point of listing it down to see who won but i quickly realised that 99% of parents will talk for ages about their own without a seconds thought about anyone elses children.

How are you in a position to be spending so much time with her?

Oh my goodness, I think I love you a little bit - this will help so much with one particular friend!

Just say

bless your heart

oh how sweet

thats nice for him/her

do you think he/she will be a rocket scientist then

with a overly sweet smile

There was a mum like this when my DS was younger. Everything about her dc especially her dd was amazing. Her Dd was apparently a complete genius. I saw recently she had done an average type of degree at RG university at the bottom end of the table. She got a job doing something fairly pedestrian. Not quite the high flyer we’d had pushed down our throats.

So funny…I knew someone like this once. She actually told me that the teacher came out to find her at home time (primary school) and said:

”Are you Mrs X? I have to tell you Billy is the most intelligent child I have ever met in all my years of teaching”.

Yeah, that happened😏

She's insecure and unhappy with her life. Pity her but also avoid her. You have feet, move away.
How come you get to be with her so much op?
I hardly ever saw the mothers of the kids at senior school....