Y8 : Possibility of a place

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210giraffe · 15/01/2023 14:30

On Thursday i had 2 missed calls from one of the secondary schools on our waiting list . I then saw an email asking if I'm still interested in a place for DD. (I thought she had a place but it was just to update their lists again since December)

On Friday I was told we are number 6 and will be informed if a space comes. Later I had another email saying there's a possibility of a space and would we be able to come to a meeting on Tuesday morning with the Head of Year.

I struggle with anxiety so I kinda panic when I should be excited. To put my anxiety at ease I asked how long it would be and what would happen. All I know is that it's 20 mins and she (admissions)didn't know what would happen. I agreed to the meeting,(I would've liked more time to think it through but she says that was the only time available at the moment)

But now my anxiety is taking over and I'm wondering how necessary this meeting is for the "possibility of a place" I haven't told DD yet . Do I get her hopes up when we technically haven't been offered a place.

DD just started her monthly cycle and I've been giving her pain relief hope she'll be ok by Tuesday. I'm just wondering If we don't go to the meeting will it affect our chances?

Does anybody have experience of what happens at a meeting like this? Also I'm wondering if there's anything I should be asking?

Ideally I'd prefer to have a meeting if there was an actual space available but can i say that now that I've agreed to the meeting? Is it rude? Is it better to give another reason/postpone e.g the cramps or workload? (the school manages it's own waiting list, I don't want to be moved down lol) I would like to use Monday to get back in touch but I don't know how to politely say "why meet if there's no space yet" lol

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noblegiraffe · 15/01/2023 14:34

Just email the school and say "please can you confirm the purpose of the meeting so that I can be prepared?"

Hersetta427 · 15/01/2023 15:41

If it's the school you want and have been waiting for the whole school year why would you not go?

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210giraffe · 15/01/2023 15:42

noblegiraffe · 15/01/2023 14:34

Just email the school and say "please can you confirm the purpose of the meeting so that I can be prepared?"

@noblegiraffe but when I emailed that on Friday the admissions lady said she didn't know.

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noblegiraffe · 15/01/2023 15:43

Then ask her to find out? It's not unreasonable to know why you're going into school for a meeting before going into school.

starpatch · 15/01/2023 15:47

Sounds like someone is leaving and they want your DD to be ready to take his /her place. They can't formally offer her the place until the other student has left. I know its stressful but I would go, I wouldn't cancel over period pain. I am the same I feel very anxious when offered a chance like this, but it sounds like you do want the school place for your DD or you would have withdrawn when you got that email.

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210giraffe · 15/01/2023 16:57

Hersetta427 · 15/01/2023 15:41

If it's the school you want and have been waiting for the whole school year why would you not go?

@Hersetta427 what I'm saying is, if there was a guaranteed space and we accepted it, then a meeting beforehand is how I'd expect things to go . However I'm seeing it as there aren't any guaranteed spaces it's a "possibility" so who knows whether it'll amount to something. We may still be waiting afterwards.

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Hersetta427 · 15/01/2023 17:01

Well you won't know until you ask or go to the meeting. They probably know that someone is going to leave and sounding out those on the waiting list (so far into the term people may be more reluctant to take their child out of a school that they are happy and settled at so it May have come down to you. I don't understand your reluctance when it could be good news. Period pain should be treated and dealt with with tablets - if she can attend school then she can attend a 20 min meeting.

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