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DS won’t revise!

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winnieverlast · 31/12/2022 16:51

DS has GCSE mocks in three weeks but hasn’t revised at all basically. He’s very able and predicted mainly 9s but just won’t focus enough to revise and can’t be bothered. He would rather go for a run or read. I’m worried he’ll do this for the real thing as well. It’s not as if he’s going to fail anything so he hasn’t got to worry about that and his maths skills are great so he does fine in the science, but how on earth doi

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autienotnaughty · 01/01/2023 07:40

We offered financial reward. £50 for an A*, £40 for a A etc .

TheTeenageYears · 01/01/2023 07:42

You leave him to it - he'll either do it or or he won't, he'll either achieve what he's capable as a result of revising or not revising, or he won't. That will be on him and is a very valuable life lesson. He has presumably had end of year exams in Y7-10 (granted not every year due to covid) to learn revision is required, if you try and force him now will you do the same at A levels and through uni/working life? At some point we have to take a step back and let them drive their own success (or failure). If DS is genuinely capable of all 9's, he's capable of managing his own schedule too.

KalvinPhillipsBoots · 01/01/2023 07:44

It's the Christmas Holidays, the more you go on at him, the more he will kick back and dig his heels in.

jamoncrumpets · 01/01/2023 11:35

autienotnaughty · 01/01/2023 07:40

We offered financial reward. £50 for an A*, £40 for a A etc .

My parents refused to remunerate me on that basis, preferring to reward effort.

Onnabugeisha · 01/01/2023 11:39

TheTeenageYears · 01/01/2023 07:42

You leave him to it - he'll either do it or or he won't, he'll either achieve what he's capable as a result of revising or not revising, or he won't. That will be on him and is a very valuable life lesson. He has presumably had end of year exams in Y7-10 (granted not every year due to covid) to learn revision is required, if you try and force him now will you do the same at A levels and through uni/working life? At some point we have to take a step back and let them drive their own success (or failure). If DS is genuinely capable of all 9's, he's capable of managing his own schedule too.

I agree with this. Just leave him to it.

NellyBarney · 01/01/2023 13:37

Our school invited all parents in before Christmas holidays and tried, very sternly, to persuade them to stop their dc from revising until the new year. They were very adamant that they needed the rest between Christmas and the new year. They said they would send 1 practice paper home in each subject to do under real timed conditions during last couple of days of holidays in the new year and to bring it in so that teachers could mark it and they would go through it with the pupils in class.

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