Year 9 girls - immense unkindness - WWYD

[Nancyinthetown]

Hi, we have just moved house from London to the Midlands and my daughter has recently started in Year 9 at the local high school. Before she started everyone we asked said how nice the school was and how happy their kids were. Sadly her experience has been very negative and she has been subject to immense unkindness from her peers. There have been several incidents where her peers have said some very unkind things, culminating in today some year 9 girls telling her to kill herself. I am really shocked at this behaviour in what is actually a nice area. It is starting to affect my daughter - she thinks it is because she is an easy target and has no friends to support her. I've been in contact with the school but in terms of the longer term, WWYD? Stick it out or find an alternative. I really don't know. Many thanks mumsnetters.

@Nancyinthetown - it is bullying, the school my DD was at told me she needed to build up more resilience! Over my dead body, that means it’s ok to act like they did, no thanks, leaving her at the school I was terrified she would turn into one of them to fit in. My DD was a confident girl and like your DD just wanted to make new friends. The parents of bullies were dispicable, when HofY told one of the mums that I was removing my DD from the school, she scoffed, as if receiving threats of kill yourself & physical assault from her daughter was nothing. If I ever found out that either of my DC were behaving like their kids they would know about it, there would be sanctions placed on them and letters of apologies written. In my world it is not acceptable, sadly it’s not the case for other parents. Gosh I’m ranting, I hope you get your DD sorted. Have you thought perhaps about seeing what availability other schools have, just in case Christmas comes and situation is no better, I say this as it took 5 weeks of more homeschooling after Covid to get another school, and that was with space once all paperwork had been sorted.