Sorry this is really long I guess I just want someone to tell me it will all be OK and I'm over reacting - I'm trying to not stress as obviously DS will get a state school offer so he'll be going SOMEWHERE - it's just our catchment school has police officers based there, metal detectors on the door, horrifying exam results and a reputation for drugs - I know some mumsnetters will critise me for not wanting him to go and say he should learn about real life - but I don't want him there 
I've not put it on the form in the hope of getting lucky elsewhere but others are out of catchment, hugely over subscribed and / or Catholic which we're not.
DS has SEN and gets 25% extra time in some exams and use of a laptop.
Despite SEN DS is actually fairly bright particularly at maths but his English is not nearly so good. He's currently in an independent prep. His head teacher advised that locally there were 2 schools he'd probably get scholarships for - they are usually back up choices. He also suggested we applied for one very high ranking school to see what happened and a couple of others DS may have a chance at.
Results so far are that the school we least wanted have offered him a scholarship. The other "back up" school which was our preferred choice have just come back and said following entrance exam they want their Senco to talk to the senco at his current school. I can't even think why they want this conversation and feel sick to the core - we know he's not got a scholarship as it's gone to his best friend but that's OK as long as he gets a place :(
He passed the 11+ but not with a good enough score to be likely to get into our local grammar which is hugely over subscribed.
The high ranking school which we'd love him to go to but are realistic about his chances have surprisingly called him in for a borderline interview for his English which I suppose is good news of a sort but just another stress for him. They said he's fine with maths. However the fact he's hit even the borderline on his weak spot is phenomenal - they had 720 applications for 90 places!
Of the other 2 one has sent a really strange email saying that they need him to come in and do another exam - but they've not given any explanation as to why or what it is 
The other sent an email before the exams which basically says they aren't set up for SEN and would like to refund the registration fees. I'm not even sure that this is legal but with that attitude would not want him there anyway.
So unless he really pulls it out of the bag at interview or the mystery "extra" exam, we're likely to be left with either our least preferred independent or a local state with a reputation for knives, gangs and drugs.
Sorry this is so long - well done if you've read this far. I just feel so sick that DS is so held back by problems that he has no control over and I suppose I just wanted to rant.