My childrens school have labelled me

[Mumofgirls7]

Looking for some advice! I am a single, working mother of 3 teenagers. They are well cared for, loved, supported, polite, articulate and bright children. One child has suffered with anxiety and depression greatly since the pandemic, and also a traumatic family death. I have done everything to support her( and the other 2) but am now feeling that school have labelled her 'naughty' and labelled me as a bad parent. I bend over backwards to support her and the school but am now finding nothing I do is good enough and the school are jumping on every little thing that may not happen or goes wrong when she acts out at school. As teenagers they are all very lovely at home and I have no issues when they are with me. There are no issues raised re other two children. Does anyone else find school labelling their child and themselves as inadequate and how do you deal with it?

I'm sorry to hear things have been so difficult.

What do you mean they are "jumping on every little thing"? How is her behaviour at school?

I'm.a teacher and can say that I would not label a parent unless I had experienced it first hand. The other week a parent said effin hell in full to me,-unprovoked. Did I label her as rude? Yes.
Are the school aware of this traumatic death? Communication is the key so you can work together for what is best for your daughter. Perhaps there are mentoring sessions available? Whilst this may not be your priority, if your daughter's actions are disturbing the learning of others,there will be only so much slack they can cut her. Hope you all get some resolution.

First off I am sorry and I know this sort of thing does happen. As she has mental health issues have you asked the SENCO to get involved? Then you could explain better what has happened re anxiety. There may be adjustments such as pass to special needs hub so she can leave a lesson if anxious. Paying some attention to who she sits next to.

Are they all at the same school? I found the opposite to be honest, the head said to me that if they’d only met my third child, they’d be asking questions about our home life and my parenting but they knew the other two were fine so they could skip that bit. i was grateful at the time, although since then have wondered what that meant for people whose oldest child had SEN, not their youngest.

Examples of them jumping and labelling? Your OP is too vague to comment.