Lewd Behaviour of Older Kids - When To Worry?

[Allusernamestakenbutthis]

DS has just started secondary and is a naive compared to kids his age. He's being investigated for SEN probably ASC. I'm not a prude talking about sex with him and I will try my best to explain things he hears at school, but OMG the stuff he comes home with is horrific. One boy in his year 7 class can't stop talking about porn.

Yesterday two older boys were poking their fingers in his and his friends bums in the lunch queue and saying they were "finger@@g little boys" and more... The older boys were joking apparently but I think it is just going too far and he needs to report it. I have suggested to a teacher he may want to talk about an incident that made him uneasy. He didn't even know exactly what pedophiles did until a few weeks ago so it's all too much for him and causing a lot of anxiety.

The staff are amazing btw and he chose this school because he wanted to be close to home.

Um, you need to ask? Go straight to the school. This is dreadful.

Please go to the DSL and tell them this. The school will want to investigate. School reception will give you contact details for DSL (designated safeguarding lead).

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I did email the DSL this morning about it (who was already going to have a chat with him about other stuff), but have now called and left a message incase she has not seen the email. My son begged me not to raise it and Im not sure why - sometimes he elaborates on incidents or he's scared of being made fun or bullied by others. Then I realised he had said something about older boys being mean to his new friend before and it may have happened to him because he was with this boy.

You definitely have to tell the school. Stuff like this is no laughing matter!

@Allusernamestakenbutthis
This IS a safeguarding issue. You must report it and the school has a duty to ensure it’s taken forward in line with their policy. It’s common for the offended against not to want a fuss but this behaviour needs stamping out. I do hope you have a very strong SLT.