Lewd Behaviour of Older Kids - When To Worry?

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Allusernamestakenbutthis · 14/10/2022 12:35

DS has just started secondary and is a naive compared to kids his age. He's being investigated for SEN probably ASC. I'm not a prude talking about sex with him and I will try my best to explain things he hears at school, but OMG the stuff he comes home with is horrific. One boy in his year 7 class can't stop talking about porn.

Yesterday two older boys were poking their fingers in his and his friends bums in the lunch queue and saying they were "finger@@g little boys" and more... The older boys were joking apparently but I think it is just going too far and he needs to report it. I have suggested to a teacher he may want to talk about an incident that made him uneasy. He didn't even know exactly what pedophiles did until a few weeks ago so it's all too much for him and causing a lot of anxiety.

The staff are amazing btw and he chose this school because he wanted to be close to home.

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Trickleg · 14/10/2022 12:54

Um, you need to ask? Go straight to the school. This is dreadful.

lemonyelderflower · 14/10/2022 13:38

Please go to the DSL and tell them this. The school will want to investigate. School reception will give you contact details for DSL (designated safeguarding lead).

MrJi · 14/10/2022 13:39

Trickleg · 14/10/2022 12:54

Um, you need to ask? Go straight to the school. This is dreadful.

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Allusernamestakenbutthis · 14/10/2022 13:55

I did email the DSL this morning about it (who was already going to have a chat with him about other stuff), but have now called and left a message incase she has not seen the email. My son begged me not to raise it and Im not sure why - sometimes he elaborates on incidents or he's scared of being made fun or bullied by others. Then I realised he had said something about older boys being mean to his new friend before and it may have happened to him because he was with this boy.

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ChaToilLeam · 14/10/2022 13:58

You definitely have to tell the school. Stuff like this is no laughing matter!

TizerorFizz · 14/10/2022 15:26

@Allusernamestakenbutthis
This IS a safeguarding issue. You must report it and the school has a duty to ensure it’s taken forward in line with their policy. It’s common for the offended against not to want a fuss but this behaviour needs stamping out. I do hope you have a very strong SLT.

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