Mufti/own clothes days at secondary

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Interested in a quick straw poll on how your secondary age children feel about mufti/own clothes days? My children's school has one tomorrow and they are both stressed about it and tell me that all their friends are as well. They are agonising about what to wear, what people will think/say etc etc. They are both generally reasonably confident and happy girls with good friendship groups, but this is causing them a level of anxiety. I'm intrigued to know if this is a common thing. They're in an all girl's comprehensive if that makes any difference?

That's really encouraging to hear. Let's hope they herald a new era of women being able to just be.... women!

@ChangeOver22 yes here's to hope because it's getting less and less straightforward for them.

Haven't had one at secondary yet, Dts have just started y7. I remember hating them though there was so much pressure to be 'right'.

Some kids plan their outfit days in advance for mufti. Others toss in whatevers clean. Kids generally liked it though.

No shits given at Dd's non uniform school, it was cheaper than buying uniform too.

My kids school doesn't have non uniform days for the reasons listed in the OP. It's a large mixed sex academy in what has been classed as one of the poorest areas in the country, with pupils coming from different areas of the town. There's a mix of kids coming from families with a bit of money and some coming from 'poorer' families.

It's fine to say kids wouldn't give a shit about not wearing uniform if they didn't have to wear one and they probably wouldn't if they all come from a similar socio economic background but when there's a mix of 'rich' and 'poor' kids, I think the story would be a bit different.

Our school usually does "wear something yellow" or "wear something Christmassy" etc, with school uniform. They have done full "mufti" once, but called it "non uniform day", because the word mufti is widely regarded as insensitive these days (a hangover from our colonial past).

Completely agree. DD is at a non-uniform school where she is not one of the better off pupils (and there is a massive range, some of them are insanely rich) and it's not a thing. They mostly wear jeans and hoodies and big stompy boots year round. I remember tears at primary on non-uniform days. I think it took her a matter of weeks to adjust.

Exactly.
I'm not well off so Dd didn't have designer clothes, but no one wore them anyway.
It was mainly leggings/jeans/shorts/t-shirts/hoodies with their own quirks added, and that was in a relatively wealthy area.
Mufti days cause far more problems than permanent non uniform.