School uniform problem

[GeorginaStacey]

Hiya. My son started Y11 this Friday and the way he wears his uniform is no different to before. Still with the untucked shirt and no blazer (clip on tie). The school have already been in contact with me 2 or 3 times since Friday about his uniform and he has been given 2 detentions already. What do I do? Do your kids prefer to have their shirts untucked and do you let them leave for school with shirts hanging out etc?

Do nothing. His choice, his consequences.

He’s in year 11, if he’s not following the uniform rules and it’s something school are cracking down on then he’ll just have to do the detentions won’t he.

If my son had chosen to do that he would have been told. Your choice to be an idiot now you take the detentions.

Ds had issues with his schools uniform code but he did not deliberately flaunt the rules. Had he I would have backed the school punishment. And he knew it. As did his sisters.

Are there different rules for the number of infringements?

He's in year 11 he chooses to break the school rules he has to accept the consequences. What other peoples kids no makes no difference.

He needs to tuck his shirt in.

If he can’t follow a simple rule then he is going to make his life a whole lot tougher for himself!

What are the school asking you to do?
Is the blazer mandatory?
Send him to school with all the required elements of uniform. If he doesn't obey then he needs to deal with the school's consequences

You speak like you think he's got a right to do what he's doing which is no doubt who he is copying it from. Tell him to wear the uniform as he should and stop trying to make excuses by seeing what other people do.

I've not had this issue so l"m not sure what you'd do. Does he behave at home? Why is he taking a stand about the uniform?

Also my son preferred his shirt untucked he wore his school uniform shirt tucked in as that was the rule.

Maybe he is ignoring OP as well and she feels she has no control over him as he's going against what she is saying about the uniform

It's really not about what he prefers, but his ability to follow (a very simple) rule

This is what teenagers do: probing if the rules which they feel are not justified, can be broken. Absolutely normal.

If we all followed the rules that were set up long before us without questioning , we would still live in a Stone Age. School uniform is a stupid idea anyway, so in a sense we still are in a Stone Age.

What do you do?

You back up the school. For every detention, he loses game time/phone time/some other privilege you're paying for.

GCSEs are harder than dressing yourself properly. He needs to suck it up and get on with it.

OP, the school are clearly trying to enforce their uniform boundaries for the new year, and you should support them. Tell your son to play along, and stay on the right side of his teachers. Later in the term, they may be more relaxed about it because they'll be focussing on other things.