Named changed for this for obvious reasons.
My Y8 ds was given a 3 day fixed term exclusion from school before half-term. Entirely justifiable - he did something unbelievable stupid that could be harmful to others in the school community (not physically). That wasn't his intent - he thought it was 'a bit silly'.
In all honesty, I don't think a permanent exclusion can be ruled out..
We're now at the end of the period of exclusion and have heard nothing from the school since the letter we received on the Saturday when half-term started. I know that schools are supposed to set work for excluded pupils, but we've heard nothing. It feels like they've washed their hands of him which, of course, they are entitled to do.
I am a nervous wreck, having to pretend to work that I need to work at home as I have a stomach bug, trying to keep ds doing some school work and supporting his older sister who is at the same school and very worried and stressed, and saying 'I don't know' every time one of them asks me about the situation.
He has a diagnosed SEN (which the school haven't been great about tbh, but it's much milder than many children they have on roll and he still does well academically), and we're thinking that maybe there's some ADHD or something there as well, not just because of this incident. His thinking processes, or lack of, do concern me greatly.
My questions are, if anyone can help -
- does the school have to call us? Could we just receive a letter saying that he's permanently excluded?
- if we don't hear anything or he is permanently excluded, do I contact the local authority? They're supposed to provide some sort of education from day 6 of an exclusion, which will be Monday, so not far away.
- would him being referred to a PRU be the quickest way of him being assessed for ADHD, so that it can be 'embedded' in the school system? We went privately for his initial diagnosis in Y6 as his primary school couldn't see further than 'he could do better if he tried' and his behaviour, and my experience is that neither school has taken any or much notice of the Ed Psych report and recommendations.
Any thoughts or suggestions welcome. I'm absolutely not trying to excuse his behaviour because of a SEN, but do want to make sure that he has any support/treatment that may help him (and those around him).
TIA