How do you handle physical aggression at school?

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DS(12) came home nervous last week as he verbally stood up to year bully after he went on a weeks bender of verbal and physical aggression to a number of students in the year. He verbally started on mine, who had enough and stood up to them. Verbal as in swearing calling derogatory names (mainly to do with sexuality). DS is now concerned that he’s in line for something more physical this week.

I understand that other parents have complained about other child and they have allotted some punishments to him, however I’m concerned about my DS as despite ongoing terrible behaviour, this boy is not letting up at school.

I’ve taught my DC to stick up for themselves, and they do, but I’ve also told them not to get physical with anyone and walk away as it cancels out the others behaviour.

I’m this situation, what would you do? Also, if my DC now becomes subject to any physical behaviour what are my options/ what do I do? I’ve never been in this situation before.

Report it to the school. Be honest, and include a brief description of how your child responded to the aggravation, and that he is concerned about physical retaliation.

I agree report it to the school. Have you review the behaviour and anti-bullying policy of the school? what you are describing can fall on the new topic of peer to peer abuse. Also I think you can make a diary of incidents with dates and events and take it with you when you talk with the school. I hope you can get an answer and your child feels safe.

Report it to the school.

I was taught by my parents as a child to never put my hands on anyone, unless they attacked me first. I have experienced bullying at school which was mostly verbal because I wasn’t good at defending myself with words. The few times a bully fysically attacked me, I became very agressive and hit back as hard as I could. That definitely worked to keep them off my back. I would teach my child the same thing. Don’t attack anyone but self defense is definitely encouraged.

I’ve encouraged my DC not to hit back as when I was a teen I knew of a boy who terrorised loads of other teen boys. He was extremely violent. He picked on my friend’s boyfriend who hit the bully back, he fell back on a kerb and hit his head and ended up in hospital. My friends boyfriend, who was a kind, gentle, academic kid who would have ended up doing really well, ended up in court with a GBH sentence.

Ds started a new school at 13 and was victim of verbal abuse. School weren't interested... After a week- I am not proud nor ashamed to say ds head butted him. My shy and quite ds!!
The lad shook his hand afterwards and all was good. The mind of a teen is a bloody strange thing.

5 years ago and ds has never been violent since. Or bullied.

Happened at my school at that age. The thing is, it was a girl who got hit back by a boy. One reactive punch that flattened her after she ran up with her fist raised.

Despite the fact that she was easily a foot taller, probably stronger (puberty) and a horrendous bully to all and sundry the poor lad who had been sitting there minding his own business was pilloried by teachers and almost got expelled. I think her parents called the police in and her brothers jumped him one night a few years later and beat him quite badly.

Think her home life may well have been difficult but bloody hell she was evil. Didn't really rein it in much after that as I recall. Bullies are everywhere.

Feel for him OP (and you). If nothing else he needs to know that you're standing by him and taking it up with the school.

Is it not a safeguarding concern if you believe he and others may be about to come to physical harm?