@Runningmummyof3
I'm going by the booklet I received from KCC that clearly gives examples of when places are rejected and we fit into those criteria. I also spoke with the schools and they advised them same. So if I've misunderstood so have the schools
If it is the one on their website, the examples in Kent's booklet include one where a child misses out on his first preference as it is oversubscribed so gets a place at his second preference as he qualifies for a place there. He doesn't miss out through naming it second - that doesn't happen in any of the examples.
Some schools give poor advice, either because they don't understand the system or because they want to make sure the school is full by getting lots of people to name them as first preference. However, if they told you that you need to name them as first preference if you want a place, they were giving correct advice which you have misinterpreted. They don't mean you could miss out because other people named them as first preference. They mean you could miss out because you will get a place at your first preference. If a child qualifies for places at both first and second preferences, the parents will be offered the place at the first preference and the place at the second preference will be allocated to someone else.
Unfortunately, many parents get this wrong and do what you have done, thinking that places go to people naming the school as their first preference first and therefore they have to game the system. What this actually means is that, if your daughter qualifies for a place at your local school, that is what will be offered regardless of whether she would have got a place at her preferred school.
Unfortunately, it is too late to do anything about this now. If Kent allowed you to change the order of your preferences, they would treat you as a late applicant which means you would be unlikely to get a place at either school. You may strike it lucky and get what you want. If you don't, you can always appeal for your preferred school.
By the way, if your daughter is offered a place at your first preference, you will need to ask Kent to put her on the waiting list for the school she wants. It won't happen automatically.
I know this isn't what you want to hear and I'm sorry to be the bearer of bad tidings.