Egerton Rothesay - recent experience?

[Quirk1]

DS is in Y3 but we are just starting to look at options for secondary, so that we can get either him geared up academically, or us financially prepared... He doesn't have any kind of EHCP but school are pretty convinced he is HF ASD. He has sensory issues (avoider), and at an educational psych review in Reception class, they said he was close to the top 3% for IQ but not achieving academically because of processing problems.

Sooo, we are wondering whether Egerton Rothesay would be the right place for him? He needs somewhere that is mindful of his very sensitive, gentle nature (so, I think he would find it disturbing if there were pupils with loud behavioural differences). He has interests in academic areas (archaeology, medicine, fine arts), but is this the right school to enable him to get the sort of grades to win a university place?
I'm finding it tricky to balance his two needs - which are for a nurturing, mindful environment, but also a need for a school to pull out his intellect into some sort of academic achievement!
Are there any other schools which would tick this box? We are Herts/Bucks border, but could move. We can pay, if we have to...he is a fairly good musician so perhaps music scholarship could be an option? Thinking about Trying Academy for his sibling.
Thanks for your thoughts!

Soz, that should say we are thinking about Tring Academy (performing arts) for his sibling....

Egerton Rothesay is for kids who are quite Sen. We looked at it for DD but it was too far and too special for her needs. I'm not sure it's a school for a child who can manage mainstream but needs a more gentle approach. Have a look at mount house for that.

What is Aldenham school like? Bucks/herts border is a bit light on boys schools other than Berkhamsted. Would Stowe be worth a look at 13? The boys I know who needed more nurturing stayed at prep until 13.

Thank you both, very useful!

If you want something a bit different, you could look at Thorpe House (Gerrards Cross). It's a prep school that goes up to 16 so seemed quite a nurturing environment when we once looked round it.

I've had friends with kids at Aldenham. It's less selective academically than Berkhamsted but I wouldn't describe it as particularly nurturing either.

@mnp321
The huge problem with schools that only go to 16 is what do you do afterwards? Also they are lacking in role models in the 6th form and the importance of older boys is missing in areas such as sport, arts and music etc. I feel they limit the pupils somewhat.

I completely agree (although I think they were looking to extend it to 18).

Personally I like the big year, bustling atmosphere of a secondary school but I mentioned it as an alternative option if looking for a smaller, more nurturing secondary environment.

Shiplake and Bloxham are definitely worth a look. Egerton Rothesay is hard to quantify as it totally depends on the other children in the year group - no two years are the same. I know two boys with HFA who went there. One thrived and did extremely well. The other left and was home educated as the mix of abilities was really off.

Tring Park is a great school BUT I would exercise caution depending on age. At 16, yes absolutely bring it on. At 8 you are totally limiting a child to dance and swimming for sport, for example.

Forget Egerton, definitely check out Aldenham.