Bullied - to stay or go....

[Comeonsummerhols]

Hi Everyone - Advice needed.

DNiece goes to RTS Twickenham - brother and wife wanted something local and cant afford independent. Visited last weekend - DN is a real state, friendship group bullied by girl who expelled from another school and is causing hell. Fought DN friend filmed it and posted it on line - horrendous!!.

School not doing anything about it - now friends leaving RTS and DN will be alone.

Surely the school should do something! I feel she should leave too .... but this condoning the behaviour of the bully ....and the bully will just move on to bully someone else.....???????

Help please! Thanks all

You say the school should do something - have her parents spoken to the Head of Year/Pastoral Head?

Does DN want to love? Do her parents want her to move? What options are there locally?

Does dniece want to leave the school?
If the answer is yes, then they should take her out immediately.
It’s not about condoning the behaviour of the bully it is about dniece’s emotional and physical wellbeing.

I don’t think you should have identified the school.

@EduCated - Hi - yes - they just moved Bully to another form - but this doesnt stop the behaviour! Other parents voting with their feet - but no other 'good' LOL schools in Richmond Borough without huge waiting lists. Head hasnt been a Head before, its a new school and they are just not dealing with it effectively. hmmmmmm its also an Academy, so I think LA route not an option??

Ooops ! Sorry ..... not sure how to remove......??

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With regards to waiting lists at other schools, these are held in order of the admissions criteria, not first come, first served, so they may be long, but it doesn’t necessarily follow that your DN would be at the bottom of the list.

If she wants to move, getting added to the waiting list of any preferable school is the first step. She can also apply for schools outside of the borough.

Would also suggest parents are following up, and look at the complaints procedure for escalating concerns (beyond the head) if they are unhappy with how things are being dealt with.

Ultimately if she wants to move, the options are to wait it out on waiting lists, find the nearest school with spaces (even if it is one that wouldn’t be a top choice), or home educate.

It is also possible to appeal for schools which are full. At secondary it is about demonstrating that the impact to your DN of not being offered a place outweighs the impact of a school having to take an additional child. There are lots of threads about appealing, and you can appeal for more than one school.