DD is in YR11 at a large Comp in England. She has been quite moody at home since around the time of lockdown one and our relationship is quite strained and difficult. Her bedroom is a tip but she behaves at school but is extremely quiet at school and isn’t pushing boundaries too much at home other than messy unhygienic room and wanting to be on her phone and ipad to the exclusion of almost everything else.
She was awarded extra time in the December mocks as I kicked up a stink but in all her previous timed tests which may have been used for CAG grades she wasn’t given any extra time. But unfortunately she didn’t use this extra time as the rooms were freezing cold (windows flung wide open all day due to covid, she was shivering and practically blue when I picked her up) and the way the exams were organised it would have meant her staying behind at the end of the school day (and she had already to be in school half an hour early for morning exams) also she was tired and didn’t want to stay with invigilators she didn’t know or feel comfortable with and they didn’t seem to keen on the kids with extra time staying behind. Then lockdown happened so she/we haven’t said anything. Her grades were terrible.
She hates her maths teacher with a passion and she is talking about them getting grade 5’s for GCSE when she was predicted 6’s or 7’s she is meant to be in set two.
Also in the Christmas mocks she ended up getting U’s in two of her science subjects one of which she wanted to take at A level.
She hardly speaks to us and trying to engage her in any conversation is extremely difficult. But this morning she went on a stressy rant about having lots of tests at the end of March and wasn’t clear whether she would get any extra time as they were in lesson time etc. I think this was a cry for help. I would really just like to sit with her and cuddle her and help her through this but she goes mad if we show any affection at all for her.
We had her tested for dyslexia in Primary School as we were concerned about her reading and writing and how this could impact on her learning, education, life chances etc.
But as she was quietly bright and doing ok so she hasn’t really received any support at Secondary School (other than the odd hour a week for a short number of weeks once or twice). She hates having any attention on her from teachers, pupils and or ourselves their are other reasons as well so we have wondered whether she maybe on the spectrum especially in the last 10 months. She is also quite jealous of her older brother (they are fairly close in age) but he is extremely academic, brags about it but doesn’t appear to work to hard.
Should I try and speak to someone in school and who would you suggest I spoke to. Her form tutor is new and only really took over at the end of last year and DD also isn’t keen on her. What would you do I know the teachers are stressed and have a lot on but I don’t want DD to be overlooked?