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school ties - top button done up or undone

23 replies

Tej1 · 15/09/2019 00:06

I'm constantly having a running battle over school uniform with mum son and insist he wear his tie for school with the shirt top button done up, although he thinks I'm being overly strict. What's the policy at your child's school. I know there are more pressing issues I should worry about rather than the way he wears his uniform but I'm very much old school when it comes to dress and appearance and don't want the school to think I don't care and do not support the school uniform policy.

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Flanjango · 15/09/2019 00:12

Done up. One of the reasons one of mine couldn't cope.

BackforGood · 15/09/2019 00:13

Well, just because he leaves you with it done up, doesn't mean he will walk into school with it done up.
Not worth the battle, IMO. Just let him know that is the school rule (if it is) and if he is caught with it undone during a crack down, then the consequences are upon him.
Pick the battles you want to use your energy on.

MonChatEstMagnifique · 15/09/2019 00:16

I'm sure they're meant to be done up but my son hasn't done his up since Year 7 and he's in Year 11 now. I just leave him to it, he is doing well academically and is a good lad so I can't get worked up about it.

BringOnTheScience · 15/09/2019 09:17

Done up here.

I moved DC2's top button to be right on the very edge of the fabric and made the buttonhole longer towards the edge too. Meant there was an extra 1/2 inch of room without having to up a shirt size. Tiny bit less restrictive.

GreenTulips · 15/09/2019 09:20

Let the school deal with it. Not sure why you think they’d think anything of your parenting. They have other more pressing things to do/sort

Wolfiefan · 15/09/2019 09:21

Ex teacher. I couldn’t have cared less. I may even have suggested to some students that if teachers couldn’t tell then they wouldn’t get told off! So top button undone but tie done up so it covers the fact.
Pick your battles OP!!

SpinneyHill · 15/09/2019 09:26

Ties have top button done up. Source-Attended several schools with Tie included in uniform

dementedpixie · 15/09/2019 09:28

Mine have the button undone but the tie tied in such a manner that you cant tell its undone

Smidge001 · 15/09/2019 09:28

Get him larger neck sizes on his shirts so it doesn't feel tight around his neck, then get him to do up the top button.

dementedpixie · 15/09/2019 09:29

And it's not something I would get worked up about either

joblotbubble · 15/09/2019 09:35

I do t think our high school has a policy about a short button. If it does I have never heard of it despite seeing 3 kids through it.

joblotbubble · 15/09/2019 09:35

*shirt button

YouCantBeSadHoldingACupcake · 15/09/2019 09:38

Pick your battles. Its a school rule so if it is broken the school will give your child an appropriate punishment and your child can choose whether to risk it. Same with skirt lengths

dementedpixie · 15/09/2019 09:40

Is it even a policy at the school or is it a policy you have made up? I dont think our school states anything about top buttons

Fruityb · 15/09/2019 09:42

Done up. My old school has clip on ties so you can’t leave the button undone. Current school doesn’t but it needs top button done up. Some don’t but you can’t tell as tie is long enough.

pikapikachu · 15/09/2019 10:11

Done up. They are pretty strict at Ds school and he wouldn't want a uniform mark so will do it up.

TeenPlusTwenties · 15/09/2019 10:15

Done up.
If it's too tight with button done up then buy large shirts.

TwoRedShoes · 15/09/2019 10:57

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Soomaa · 15/09/2019 16:42

It's done up here, but as others said they cover it with the tie. Wink
In year 9 my oldest and some of his friends tried to challange the school uniform policy a bit too often and ended up with two headmaster detentions on saturdays and missed their school team matches. That's the consequence if you don't play by the rules.

I think it's something between the pupils and the school. I support the uniform policy at home, provide the correct uniform and encourage my kids to wear it, but that's all I can do. I leave the house earlier than my older kids every morning and can't control what they wear.

CactusAndCacti · 15/09/2019 20:19

Depends on uniform policy and tie type. If it was a proper tie and no policy just undone.

Mine wear clip on ties so button has to be done up.

SweetMarmalade · 15/09/2019 23:20

Top button has to be done up and Ds also has a clip on tie so can’t get away with it! I have had to buy a bigger shirt size so he doesn’t feel quite as restricted.

The only time the rule can be relaxed is if he’s struggling with his asthma, then he has a note from pastoral care.

Original poster
Tej1 · 12/10/2019 16:09

Thank you. I'm happy with the responses and it looks like most schools insist their pupils have the top button done up, and will continue to monitor my sons dress and appearance for school.

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yellowallpaper · 12/10/2019 16:27

What a waste of energy over a button which can't even be seen behind the tie Confused

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