....not sure if there is any advice here or more just support...
DD finished year 7, gained place in a highly sought after secondary school (main feeder high school everyone else in her class went to, and which DD would have attended had she not received this place is dire- in special measures, so for her best shot education wise we opted for the place she has now)
DD is not hugely confident, she is a follower, not a leader. Exceptionally polite, funny, and grateful for friendships she forms.
The school she attends takes about 1/4 from local area and then 3/4 from wider catchment area, looking at people travelling 8 miles plus easily to attend. DD didn't have tuition to obtain a place, but many pupils did (not a stealth boat, DD is certainly not one of the high performers in the school) so it does not have a cluster of pupils who live close by.
So, we are in the holidays and so far one person has arranged to meet with DD. This is some DD has got to know part v way through the year, they have lots of other friends, but DD really looking forward to meeting up.
However, her main group of friends, while sharing posts on Instagram (I'm not a fan of social media but we v agreed DD could have this as it was the main form of communication and we weighed up pros and cons of her feeling left out without it) sandy suggestions to meet up are being ignored.
She hasn't got a huge circle of friends so the refusal to arrange anything has really upset her, although she is trying to not show it. I've suggested contacting people she gets on with but who might not be her main friends, but she said it would look silly her contacting them and they'd probably say no.
I'm dreading the rest of the holidays. We have a week away which means she wouldn't be able to meet anyone then but after that we'be got the rest of the holidays to fill.
I'be said when she goes back to school she has to get the bus home rather than me picking her up most of the time so she is mixing with people out of school (and I'd be happy if she wanted to hang out for a bit after school with others) but she had a bit of a melt down just before school broke up saying she feels nervous and worried all the time, she's really self conscious and worried people are always looking at her.
I'be emailed her new head of year so they are aware of this when she goes back, but otherwise I'm at a loss as to what to do.
She attends a ballet class but only been doing it a year with a couple of others so nothing social wise from that. She hates public situations, so anything new I suggest, drama club, dance classes, etc all meet with a terrified no.
Any comments appreciated.