Bullying!

[Smith888]

DS12 has been unwell lately and is very tired, some deficiencies etc. We have been seeing a specialist who has put him on antibiotics and will investigate further.

Lately he has been not just tired, but acting very strangely. Just found out in middle of night that kids have been mocking him at school asking his things like "how are the Samaritans?", "Are you clinically depressed", " you have no emotion". It's got so bad he said it's like his whole year group have an inside joke on him and hes so self conscious now he can't talk to kids anymore.
He says the kids are random and most he doesn't know. He thinks maybe a rumour has been spread about him. He says these comments make him think perhaps he IS depressed and perhaps he SHOULD kill himself.
He was on strong antibiotics last week and insisted on going to school, got dizzy and confused and went in the wrong classroom. He thinks now people will think he's weird and it will get worse. Poor boy is so confused and angry right now and I'm livid!
How do I approach school when I have no proof of what is going on and he doesn't even know most of the kids these comments come from? My intuition is telling me something is very wrong here.

What do you do when a bullied child refuses your help.

Contact his form tutor and pastoral care.

Tell them what he has said. You can say 'I have no proof but it fits with his behaviour and I have no reason to disbelieve him'.

Ask them to phone you within 48 hours (or depending how serious you feel this keep him off school until you have a response).

I will.

DS2 says he is also being bullied at his school and says I am only focusing on DS1. I believe him because I have seen the dynamics and how the other kids interact with him. I'm arranging a new school for him.

I'm feeling overwhelmed right now and don't feel I can have two kids home.

He's at home today. Seems happy but he said he has been thinking about his suicide note a lot the past few weeks, how he might do it. He doesn't have a date or place which I read is positive What really bothers me is how he's so matter of fact about it.

There are other children at this school who are supported by staff and students for their issues, I can't understand this attitude towards my son. My son has supported one boy in particular (who since left) who suggested he self harm to dampen the pain. Madness!

@Sherry19 No CAMHS at either school.

No bullying policy in secondary school, only a behavioural policy, I have been told however pastoral care will be in touch and we can discuss.

Are there any government sanctions for taking kids out immediately? Should I talk to the council about this beforehand? Isn't it going to set a red flag to have two kids out of two different schools?

I spoke to DS2 school about my concerns awhile ago. I documented all the incidents via three emails. They said DS2 was obsessed with bullying due to DS1s problems and was attention seeking, that they adequately dealt with behavioural issues and 'politely' that I did not need to document everything via email. DS2 heard a teacher call him a liar. I understand bringing this up would open a can of worms but DS2 felt he couldn't share his problems because staff didn't believe him - I felt I had no choice.
I brought this up with HT on a Friday and on the Monday they did a special needs assessment (we had discussed some focus issues but I had not been informed of a date - SENCO is not in house) and a behavioural observation which in my opinion was a set up to show that he had lied about the TA, because they did indeed bring this up and stupid stuff like he lied about playing chess (DS2 is 8 and thinks he can do a lot of things he cant lol). They told me the assessment had been planned weeks ago and to take DS2 out of school if I thought they would do anything like that intentionally, or if any staff would ever use the word liar re a kid. My reply was that if that was the case, given my very recent concerns, they should have had some consideration to see how it would look from a parents' point of view. They told me that they would stop any SENCO help if that was how I felt and "how about we just allow him to fail, is that what you want?" HT was very animated. Hence all of this I've been applying to other schools.

Other people rave about the school and I wonder if I am going mad. DH is going to come to the next meeting as I really don't think I can cope anymore.

Sorry my answer is so long...