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Temporary home schooling

18 replies

lailahappy · 03/05/2019 18:08

Dear all,
My ds is in year 8 ,and he's very unhappy at his school.Lot's problem going on....all the time.Please don't get it wrongly. He is not a rude or a naughty child,he just question things !! I had comments from other student's parent from what their children witness ,that the school pick on my child constantly .Anyway Iam looking at moving him school but at the moment He's been frighten to have an exclusion !! It starts panicking me as it will be on his student file and I don't want to risk it by keeping him at school .My question is can I home school him till a get a place in an other school? If yes,how to start or deal with the procedure? Iam feeling lost ,please help.

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Bimkom · 03/05/2019 19:50

There is a homeschooling section under Education on Mumsnet.
Try asking there.

PetuniaPetunia · 03/05/2019 19:52

Yes you can. Look at Education Otherwise's website.

feistymumma · 03/05/2019 19:56

Hi, I am in the same situation with my son in secondary school. I arranged a meeting with the head and informed them that I was not happy with their pastoral care and that my son was now suffering from anxiety. I also called my LA and spoke with the attendance officer for the school and was told it was okay to take him out temporarily. I also get work every week from the school for him to complete. Good luck

RancidOldHag · 03/05/2019 20:01

If he thinks he's at risk of exclusion, presumably you have been invited meetings with staff to discuss what the issues are. What have you been told directly (not what he, or other parents are choosing to tell you)?

I ask, because if he does have behavioural issues that are severe enough to be bringing him close to exclusion, then you really need to know about them. A fresh start at a new school might be a very good plan, but it is one that will founder if there are unresolved issues and troublesome behaviour just carries on in the new school.

What does 'he just questions things' actually mean?

Home ed to cover a gap between schools could work. What sort of education will you provide? If it is a just for a short while between schools, then doing something curriculum based is likely to be preferable to unschooling

TheColonelAdoresPuffins · 03/05/2019 22:32

Why does he think he is at risk of exclusion if he is neither rude nor badly behaved? What do the school say about it?

Wolfiefan · 03/05/2019 22:36

He questions things in school but isn’t rude or naughty? Do you mean he answers back? Confused

Penguinpandarabbit · 04/05/2019 17:09

I would discuss things with the school to find out what is going on - schools don't exclude lightly - if you mean he's answering back he might get a detention but wouldn't get excluded normally.

A few exclusions I know recently at DDs school who is year 8 have been for bringing alcohol into school and consuming it, bringing a knife into school and deliberately setting fire alarm off which results in all pupils out of lessons for 10 minutes.

Would be worth getting schools view on what's going on.

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lailahappy · 04/05/2019 21:44

In our DSs school,you get serious category of detention if you get caught drinking water in corridor , mucking about with friends in corridor, if one student accuse an other one for any little thing,the class teacher wouldn't bother to sort it,so he /she would call a DP ( a member of staff that's called out to sort any issue during lesson ) and he will automatically issue one of these serious detention !! As resault if you acumulate 3 of these type of detention you'll get issued with a more serious one,and 3 of these latest will resault to internal exclusion! ! And of course they go to the student file !!!

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Wolfiefan · 04/05/2019 22:21

So he needs to stop messing about. Confused

stucknoue · 04/05/2019 22:21

Yes you can, starting straight away, but you need to be able to provide an "appropriate" education. Cdp books are mainstream English curriculum based and they offer both textbooks and work books, enough to complete the year at least. Or there's online schools now but much is US based and Christian fundamentalist.

But it's not easy or cheap, you need to be prepared to teach him and he needs to be willing to be taught by you and self study - staying at home doesn't mean all day Xbox!

I did it between house moves (a bit younger) and we did lots of field trips and writing based on them as well as the curriculum guides I mentioned above

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lailahappy · 04/05/2019 22:49

Thank you so much for all your feedbacks.Much appreciated

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roisinagusniamh · 04/05/2019 22:55

Are you going to home school him yourself or get tutors in ?

TheGrey1houndSpeaks · 04/05/2019 23:02

Would you really prefer to homeschool up to GCSE and beyond, rather than trying to find out why he’s under threat of exclusion when he claims not to be misbehaving??

ASauvignonADay · 05/05/2019 08:32

Has he said why he is unhappy?
You can home school (either temp or permanently) - you just need to inform the school in writing.
But, I'm not sure that is the best thing to do. Looking at why he is misbehaving and supporting the school would be better.
If you want to move him to a new school, you will probably find the problems at the same unless you try and get him back on track.

roisinagusniamh · 05/05/2019 09:53

As a poster said above, it is extremely difficult for schools to permanently exclude pupils ...........it's called a managed move .
Before school can consider this move they have to have done everything possible to accommodate your son.
Ask for a meeting with the staff involved.

MollyButton · 05/05/2019 09:58

I really suggest you go and talk to the school. Find out what is actually going on. What your son is doing. How much trouble he is in. Have they started the long procedures towards exclusion?

What things do they suggest? Is there any possible SN/SEN? Are there groups he could go to? Should he see a school counsellor? Are there any accommodations that could be made to help him conform.

MrsKrabbapple · 05/05/2019 09:59

It’s not that the teacher ‘wouldn’t bother’ to sort out any behavioural issues during class time, it’s that she is teaching so another adult will come and see to the problems. So the teacher can teach an the children who aren’t involved can learn.

You need to talk to someone at the school and find out what is actually going on with your son. It sounds like you think he is not getting to tell his side of events when he does get into trouble.

roisinagusniamh · 05/05/2019 10:05

If you remove him, which is your right, the school will not be obliged to ensure he is educated . You will be on your own.
Please explore what the problems are .

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