Being punished for telling bully to back off little sister

[AFOLNerd]

My son has just been given a detention for approaching the girl who has been tormenting his little sister and telling her to pack it in.
He didn’t threaten her, shout, swear or touch her just told her that it needs to stop now. With independent witnesses who back up his version of events. But because the little madam who reduces my daughter to tears most days turned on the waterworks he is the one that gets accused of bullying!

Normally I am the first one to defend the school whatever and say you did the crime suck it up but this seems completely unfair.

Do the detention. It's worth it.

Mores to the point though, what are you doing about the bully specifically?

We have had similar issues.
Ds physically restrained a boy on the school bus who was preventing dd getting to her db by holding his leg out and kicking her. Big bruise developed. I rang the school and insisted he be removed from isolation where he had been told he needed to be next day. Crazy rules.
Oh and no repercussions for a 15 yo assaulting a 12 yo...
Won't be sending next dc there.

Go and talk to the Head. Tell him/her what you’ve said here. See what happens.

I know him he won’t go if he thinks it is unjust, so it will get upscaled to a day in isolation.

That’s it the school are being useless about dealing with the girl because she is very manipulative and clever about not being heard or seen.
Hopefully though this might bring it all to a head and either the girl will stop or it will force the school to look at why he felt he had to get involved.

What has the Head said to you about it all?

No, it won't. Unless you demand to talk to the head about serious safeguarding issues and say everything you have said here about her bullying and being manipulative nothing will change. And have your son with you at the meeting to back you up and answer back any inaccuracies they throw in.

Schools can’t condone older brothers and sisters (or older students) just “having a word” to younger ones. It then becomes a case of investigating the tone and the approach and what was said (or apparently said) and totally weakens the school when they try to deal with the bully.

To the bully it’s manna from heaven “mum, X’s older brother has threatened me!!” and a perfect defence.

Your son would be totally correct in his actions if it was out of school and she was being bullied in front of him. However you need to convey to him that in school it’s the adults who have to deal with issues like this and that he will have very unfortunately have very probably made the situation worse as the bully and her parents will now immediately say she is in fact being bullied by HIM and as an older student (and also a boy) the power balance will be seen as a much bigger issue.

He needs to do the detention for that reason and learn to pass on his concerns to adults to deal with while he is in school.

Sounds like he’s a nice boy to defend like this but wrong in how he’s gone about it.

He needs to do the detention for that reason and learn to pass on his concerns to adults to deal with while he is in school

But the adults aren't dealing with his concerns.

It’s still not up to him. It’s up to the parent to report it to the staff in school.