DD is 13 and in her second year at secondary. (we're in Scotland). She is in a large school with around 9 classes in her year group. Children were set for maths at the start of this year. there are three "top" classes, three "middle classes" and three "bottom" classes. As far as I know, there is no differentiation between what each class within each of the three groups is doing.
DD is struggling a lot in the top set. She has some real high flyers in her class who are getting 90% or more on each test. She is scraping a pass. Being one of the poorest performers in the class is really knocking her confidence. She also says that the teacher is regularly rushing them on to extension work - probably to match the pace of most of the class. She would prefer to ditch the extension work, and get the basics.
There's a parents' evening next week. We're considering asking that she be shifted to the next set down. She'd probably be performing towards the top third of that group rather than the bottom third of the group she's currently in. We think it would help with her confidence and make her less self-conscious about asking for help and clarification.
Unreasonable request? We are also discussing getting a tutor, but might leave this for a year or so until exams are looming.