Please can someone advise me in what support I can realistically expect from school for dyslexic DD?
Background: DD is in yr 11 and due to take GCSE's in 2019. She was a high achiever in primary school, although in yr 4 teachers her teacher started telling me that her written work does not reflect her knowledge and ability. Struggled to write stories or anything longer than a a couple of paragraphs. All parent teacher meetings at secondary school have said the same thing, and it seems to be having more of a negative impact as time goes by although they always said how good her work ethic and attitude to learning is. Promised to provide strategies to help her improve her writing but they have not appeared despite DD repeatedly asking.
I could see a lot of similarities in the way DD and I learn, so when I was diagnosed as dyslexic last year as a mature student, I started to wonder if DD is dyslexic too. School reluctantly did the screening but deemed her to fall within normal limits despite big variances in her scores. During the summer holidays I paid to have a private ED psych assess her who stated she is dyslexic. I emailed the school with the report including the recommendations of extra time in exams, a reader or laptop with optical character recognition and voice recognition, and help from a dyslexia tutor. I received an email that basically said because her grades are not awful they have to gather evidence that she needs the extra time in exams. No mention of the other recommendations.
One teacher (English) has been fantastic and allows DD to mark on her work where she has got to at the normal allocated time, but then to carry on which DD states shows that she can achieve as much again in the 25% extra time as in the normal allocated time.
DD has been very strongly self directed and 2 weeks ago emailed the SENDCo to enquire what the plan is for the upcoming mock exams. SendCo replied that she is still gathering evidence and will let her know in due course. We have heard nothing since and mocks starts in 2 weeks time.
DD is now very despondent and said yesterday she feels there is no point revising because it wont have any impact on her grades. She doesn't feel school is supporting her (apart from her English teacher).
Time is marching on and I don't know how to approach the school. I am well aware of the ever decreasing budgets for schools and cynically feel that the fact that DD's grades won't be horrific means the school won't prioritise putting the support in place to help DD reach her full potential. The mother lion in me asks what evidence can they possibly need over and above an ed psychs report? I am so frustrated as DD has a clear idea what she wants to do for a career, and has the intelligence and attitude to achieve it, but needs the support now as the GCSE's are so close. I'm torn between emailing and asking politely what the plan is, and writing an email releasing all this pent up frustration on the school. I think a polite email will only be fobbed off, and an honest one will only put a wall between me and the school. But then its the squeaky wheel that get the oil etc. The fact that I am dyslexic too means that emails such as this cause me huge stress in making sure I've used the right tone and words, don't let my emotions distract from the required outcome, don't put someones back up etc.
Is it realistic to expect that school would put the recommendations in place on the back of an ed psychs report? I am a lone parent so accessing a dyslexic tutor privately would have a big impact on family finances but I would make the necessary budget adjustments if that is the best thing to do. Part of me feels that with the limited time between now and GCSE's its the path of least resistance, and I just want the best possible outcome for DD, while the other part questions why should I also pay for the tutor after I had to pay for the assessment, which clearly states what school should put in place.
Sorry its so long but I didn't want to drip feed, and apologies for any typos or grammar/spelling errors, as I said I too am dyslexic. If anyone fancies helping me draft an email, that would be hugely appreciated.