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End of year awards afternoon

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Rhubardandcustard · 16/07/2018 20:12

Does your school do these end of year awards ceremonies?

My Dd just coming up to the end of year 9 and once again not been awarded anything. She's trying to act like it doesnt bother her, but said today thats shes not sure why it seems to be the same kids year after year and why the teachers don't seem to put her forward for anything.

Any secondary school teachers on here can enlighten further as to why some kids always seem to be overlooked? It appears the ones in top sets or the kids that are more disruptive so make themselves noticed are the ones being singled out.

She's always praised at parents evenings, but not in top sets just hovers below them. Well behaved but quiet so probably doesn't get noticed.

She's struggled greatly in year 9 with confidence, panic attacks and the school have been supportive of her and she seems to be ending the year more confident but then gets knocked back by another year of no reward.

I've tried to say in the big scheme of things it doesn't matter, 10 years from now, no one, including her will be bothered about it.

In the end what they are doing disheartening those that don't get rewards.

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blackeyes72 · 16/07/2018 20:47

I agree with you, they are a double edged sword...

Floottoot · 16/07/2018 21:06

We've just been to my son's school's speech day.
They gave a mixture of awards; academic, music, sport, DofE awards best participants and even a friendship award. The academic awards were divided into catergories, broadly effort and attainment based. Each teacher was asked to nominate their top 5 students - if a student got 3 nominations, they won an academic excellence award, and if they got 6 nominations, they won an excellence award with honours. The other awards were for excellent learners: those that arrived their very best and were a role model to others.

DS won a music award. Afterwards, I received a message from another parent, asking me what exactly the rationale was for it. I can only assume that parent didn't think DS deserved it. Certainly, there are more accomplished musicians in his year, so
maybe it was to do with his attitude/improvement/ attendance of numerous extra curricular music groups/ musicianship/other.

Who knows how these things are decided? The head went to great lengths to say she thought each and every child in the school was wonderful and she is incredibly proud of all of them.

Rhubardandcustard · 16/07/2018 21:53

Yes certainly don’t begrudge other children being awarded but would love to know how they base/decide these awards and if the teachers/heads realise that these can have a negative effect on some children who never get nominated for anything.

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BubblesBuddy · 17/07/2018 00:15

Other than adding up all marks for Work and exams, you won’t know why students get what they do. We have all had children overlooked whilst others are debuted by getting numerous awards. One got 7 in DDs 6th form. Pissed off didn’t describe what everyone thought! They don’t actually forget obscene favouritism like that! This was a girl who wasn’t top at anything! Others were clearly overlooked and it was grossly unfair. There was no obvious rationale at all.

BubblesBuddy · 17/07/2018 00:15

Others are feted ....

Soursprout · 17/07/2018 05:56

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