I know chat might not be the best place for this but looking for traffic to get some advice. It's a long one mind!
Went to DS introduction night at his new high school tonight. He's away on a school trip so I went on my own. Hall split into 8 sections and I was directed into one of them. All other sections start to fill up quickly, lots of noise and chatter etc Our section is almost dead. I counted seven children. Each section, so class, is led off to their new classroom. Get to outside DS's to realise that out of the 220 children starting they have put him and, I later found out 13 others, into the additional learning form. To give context DS has dyslexia, significant motor difficulties (borderline dyspraxia) and does struggle with lessons, organisation etc Normal things that a dyslexic/dyspraxia child would struggle with. He's currently on an IEP but integrates well into a mainstream class. I was not informed or consulted that DS would be put into this form. I then find out that these 14 children will not be integrated with any of the other 200 odd year 7's apart from PE lessons.... A TA will be with them at all times and they will be taught separately, just the 14 of them, and sometimes children from the ASD and hearing impaired bases will be taught with them too. One of the children from his school that is going in with him is dyslexic too but also very naughty and DS bounces off that, Ds is by no means an angel and can flip out sometimes although this is rare. I'm shocked and I really don't know what to do. My DS is going to be segregated from every other mainstream child in the school. His classroom is right next to the canteen and has 'additional learning centre' in big letters outside the classroom. I can see DS being subjected to a school life full of bullying and god knows what else. I had a chat with his form teacher and she seems lovely, is also the assistant Senco. I expressed my concerns and she said it's not set in stone and that ds May be able to move one day if he passes certain assessments etc. Surely the damage socially will be done by then though? I am not being discriminatory btw, I have fought and even moved ds schools before to get him the help he needed because of his difficulties and DD has ASD too. I can see the benefits of it - being able to access smaller classes, more tailored support, somewhere to go if he need a space, not getting into trouble if he's late/loses books etc But all I can see really at the moment is the negatives. He's going to hate me 😕 I really don't know what to do. Can any mumsnetters advise me please? Thanks