mmzz and third it's so hard balancing the needs of a bigger family when some of them have big stuff going on.
4 DC here and when they were small we would all go to park, swimming, eat spaghetti, whatever. It was a bit tricky with taking a tired youngest out to collect sublings from a club or asking oldest to wait while I put baby to bed but mostly it was happy chaos.
This year they have been doing uni finals, looking for jobs, GCSEs, y7 exams. If I help one with a job application then I'm not helping someone with homework. It does feel like there aren't enough hours in the day.
The DC are bright and sassy and have different combinations of dyslexia/ADHD/ASD so do really henefit from "scaffolding" to help them be organised and keep stress levels down (a bit).
During GCSEs I'm only in work 2 days a week and DH is taking those days off. It's the only way I can manage. I've got bloody got flushes and sleep badly. Grrr.
Sorry long 