I have 3 DC, 3 different schools (2 are secondary).
DC1 got 2nd choice school at first, and most of school bumf we were sent was about a ‘voluntary’ contribution of £50 a month, or whatever we felt we could afford. It was the first time I had ever come across this, but have since heard it is depressingly common amongst secondary schools, and increasingly amongst primaries too.
When DC got into his 1st choice, we had a similar letter, and we pay £50 a month because we feel we like the fact he can play rugby, and they have a mini bus and those are things that would get slashed if there was no contribution. It’s quite hard sell, but lots of parents don’t contribute, or contribute sums now and again, and there is no ‘shame’ as there is no ‘school gates’. I think it might feel different at a primary school.
DC2 is in y7, and her school asks for the same donation per month: £50. They also recently asked for contributions to some new bit of kit (whiteboard? Can’t remember.), and people who wanted to donate did, no pressure.
Full disclosure both secondaries are grammar schools, so I thought it was just a grammar school thing. But our local girls’ comprehensive has just started asking for voluntary donations, and I think the boys’ might be considering the same thing.
Dc3 is still at primary. All we have ever been asked for is ‘voluntary’ contributions for School trips. But - outstanding primary in SE London that we are - funding is being slashed. TAs are leaving and not being replaced. TA contracts reduced from 8.30-3.30 to 9-3. The school is a lot more facilitating of PTA events as the money we raise is increasingly important, rather than as just a bit of ‘treat money’ as I think it was perceived before.
And I think the SLT and governors are now contemplating asking parents for voluntary contributions, or/ and reducing school hours (eg close at lunch on Fridays).
It’s heart breaking.