Revision - the perfect excuse!

[CatherineCawood]

Is anyone else a bit sick of hearing that DD/DS can't do ANYTHING other than revise? I want DD to come to a family BBQ on Thursday evening. It will be quick just an early evening thing for a birthday we will be home by 9pm.

She has 6 exams this week, all Mon-Thur nothing on Friday and then nothing until the following Tuesday pm. After her 2 exams on Thursday she has maths tutoring. So I reckon she will be pretty done in and any revision done on Thursday evening will probably be pretty pointless, can't imagine she is going to take anything in. I'm telling her she needs a couple of hours down time, she is telling me no she needs to revise and that I will be responsible for her failing all her exams!!! [hmmm]

I know it's an excuse because she doesn't want to go but this has been going on for months she can't do anything we ask because of exams, mind you she can still go to parties, out with mates etc.

Argh! I know that she needs time with friends and I personally think she is overkilling the revision (unless in fact she is sat in her room staring into space and not revising which is entirely possible)

I'm just a bit sick of being told that I'm going to be responsible for her failing her exams because I've asked her to do something.

Personally we aren't making DS do anything he doesn't want to during this period as our reasoning is it is for him to organise his time appropriately.

He has opted out of one family event similar to yours and opted in to another at the start of half term. If he asks to meet friends of an evening we let him as it is important he relaxes as you say but we let him chose how.

I would definitely say this is a time to let her decide (and then no blame dor any mishap grades can be placed at your feet).

She might not need to revise on Thursday evening, but she will be exhausted and deserves to spend the evening how she chooses, not socialising with family (unless she wants to).

During this time I wouldn't make her go to anything she feels she can't. I remember the feeling of panic building if I was made to be anywhere apart from at home with my books.

As all other replies. No, dd isn't spending every waking moment revising, but she has limited downtime' at the moment so we're not expecting her to do something she doesn't want to do in that 'downtime'.

Your dd may not be revising for those 3 hours or so, but she just might want to relax with her own friends or 'do a bit' of revision and then she flake out infront of some mindless TV or something. that would be ok with me.

Agree with others its counter productive to 'force' her to go to a BBQ she doesn't want to right in the middle of GCSEs, it doesn't matter what the reasons are. Give her some slack.

6 exams in the same week

I would leave her well alone tbh

I agree with what others are saying, however I am a first year uni student and I am very familiar with saying "I've got to revise!" as a response to anything so whilst I genuinely DO need to revise, it's a great excuse to avoid going to see aunts & uncles I don't get on with

I've told her she doesn't have to come. Thanks for the advice!