Secondary school transfer

[Clarz1974]

We had an unexpected shock of being offered a place of my daughters 1st preference should halfway through the year. We have an induction this week with a view of a start date (I’m presume) April due to Easter holidays. My child doesn’t really want to go back to her present school as we have only 2 days left of the term as she feels uncomfortable and she doesn’t want to give a bad impression in her new school.

What can we do

I'm not really sure what your dilemma,but possibly some of your post is missing?

You have a place at a school you want and your DD wants to move as well?

Assuming your DD is not in Year 10 or 11, there shouldn't be a problem for her to miss the last 2 days of term at her old school and just move to the new one after Easter? (she may have to go back to her old school to pick up some of her things maybe, but she can probably do that in the holidays?)

Apologies if my post wasn’t clear but yes you were right. I’m just worrying whether I legally do I have to send her back and also I don’t want the new school to get the wrong impression of her. The only way I can liken her feelings is when you know your leaving your job and you just don’t feel the same knowing you are leaving. She is in year 7.

Thanks for your reply

I don't think the new school will care whether she does the last 2 days at the old school.

However, it might be nice/polite if she did finish the term to:
a) say goodbye to friends (those that she isn't close enough to to bother to keep up with)
b) thank teachers for teaching her 'I'm moving schools after Easter, thank you very much for teaching me'
c) collect in exercise books (& hand back any text books) if they are kept in school

Thank you for advice 😀

My daughter got a place at a different school at a similar time in the year when she was in year 7. It was a slightly different scenario to yours, as she was in a state secondary but very unhappy so we applied to an indie. Despite being offered a place at the indie, she stayed at the state school until the end of the academic year, before starting at the new school in year 8.
I can empathise with your DD feeling like she doesn't want to go back, but it is only 2 days and as the PP said, she can tie up any loose ends etc.
Good luck to her in her new school!

I really don't think the new school will give two hoots, or even know, if DD goes back for the remaining two days of school.
I don't think it matters either way, but if it were my DD I would encourage her to go to school, say good byes, tie up any loose ends etc. Unless of course the reason for wanting the move was something like bullying, in which case I would keep her at home.

Thank you everyone x