New here! Need help!

[QueenB74]

Hello all!
I need some advice desperately - my SS started a new sixth form 18mths ago, taking all science A-levels, did not do well at all & decided to change subjects & repeat the yr12 this academic year with new determination (promised!)
However poor grades, excuses, lying to us & teachers, mood swings etc suggest we are going the same way again.
We have asked SS to see school counsellor, and to be honest with us about how he's doing. Just excuses, blame elsewhere etc.
Happy for him to pursue other options but needs to be honest with us!!! Help xx

QueenB74 didn't want to ignore your first post.

What a difficult situation for you all. Maybe SS isn't capable of being honest with himself which is why he's finding it hard to be honest with you? Hopefully a school counsellor will help your SS to unpick the issues which are blocking him to progress academically (sounds as if he may have very low self-confidence). However it may take time.

Maybe you need to explore other options with him and the possibility of leaving school/college at the end of this year. If he sees the writing on the wall it might help him gain some clarity as to what he does/doesn't want?

Was he a diligent student before he went into the sixth form/college? Did he find the work too much of a step up?

Thank you ReelingLush18
SS should be seeing school counsellor soon so we will wait and see.. Frustrating tho, he's now 18, can't repeat the yr again, and is totally delusional about his future - we all have dreams but you have to work at it to make it a reality..

QueenB74 it sounds very frustrating for you all. Sometimes teenagers have to have a dose of reality before they can truly see the wood from the trees, if that makes sense? It sounds as if your DSS is possibly immature which maybe what is making him 'delusional' about his plans for the future.

What is it he wants to do? Is it possible that there is another way into it? Could he gain relevant experience (even at a lower level) whilst doing a part-time job and potentially doing A Levels at evening classes?? It may be that he currently needs another focus aside from full-time academic study?