Dear all, I know this has been done to death but I hoped the wisdom of Mumsnet could give us some perspective. We have just come out of the 11+ experience and have to think about which school to choose.
To put in context, our ds is in year 6 at a large outstanding state primary. He is in top stream and top set Maths. We have been told he is clever but he is a dreamer and when the teacher’s back is turned will stare out of the window and take a while to settle into a task. Therefore he is better when he has someone pushing him. He is happy and comes across as a confident boy (although some of this is show as he can be insecure). He is very articulate so I think he charms people with his rhetoric. He is a lovely, compliant boy in many ways but doesn’t fit the studious self disciplined work ethic (yet) the grammar would expect.
It was no big surprise therefore that he missed the grammar pass mark. He did well but not enough (it seems that a lot of his cohort missed it this year but that is another story).
Anyway we now have a choice of three schools and not sure which would be best to go for. We have a good chance of getting a place at any. He likes all three.
School A: catchment comprehensive. This is our least favoured. Plus points: short walk to school. There will be many people he knows there (maybe even more this year given the 11+ results). Shiny new buildings.
Negatives: top 25% creamed off so not truly comprehensive and they don’t have a good reputation for stretching the top end. We didn’t ‘rate’ the senior teachers at open evening. Not a great start. Teacher retention is a problem.
School B out of borough comprehensive.
Plus points: truly comprehensive with good results. Strong leadership team. Short bus ride. Teacher retention is good. High expectations. Cater well for top end. Some of his friends will go here probably.
Negatives: it is unbelievably huge for a school so the buildings are cavernous (quite old) and he will be just a number. Not sure about this but if he is not as bright as we have been led to believe, he wouldn’t be in top sets, he is easily distracted and our fear is he would sink academically without the pushing he has had to focus.
School C small non-selective private (only private choice in area).
Plus: small class sizes. Lovely Family feel. He would be nurtured and known. Nowhere to hide so would be pushed to stay on task. Loads of other opportunities within school. Head is very impressive. I was educated in a school like this and have happy memories.
Negatives: only goes 11-16. Non- selective so they do well but but don’t have the top end and may not push for A*. Only one or two at most of his friends might go here. Worried it might be too small for him and not give him enough skills to cope with outside world (make him independent etc).
We like B and C very much but want the best outcome. We can afford the fees so that is not a factor but want to make sure we are doing the best rather than making do.
DH was educated in the comprehensive sector and did very well but is open to any of the options.
Sorry for the length of this and thanks in advance.