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GCSE Results Day 2017

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justmumof1 · 21/08/2017 06:45

Hard to belive that I was here 5 years ago sweating it out for the results of his secondary school offer!

Only a few days now bwfore the GCSE results come out. DS is starting to get nervous....as am I!

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MsHarry · 26/08/2017 12:36

For dd1, she is her total motivator and always has been. It sounds great from the outside, but she puts huge pressure on herself.

This. Also it can be quit lonely. She is very modest, keeps mid term results to herself. When she is pushed to tell her friends her exact score, she can't ever express disappointment that she didn't get an A* but an A as she will be laughed at/moaned at etc. I understand why, but that's her target just as theirs might be to get a B/C and they'd be disappointed with a C/D. it's all relative.

Piggywaspushed · 26/08/2017 12:48

Hoping that with progress 8 people will realise that middle kids getting a C when they could get a high B is actually a massive issue.

absolutely, although DS's school is adept at hiding their actual indicator grades from us so I have no idea whether he actually underachieved according to them . He certainly isn't on their top 10% newsletter list of those who made most progress. In any case , it's historic. he pretty much underachieved at KS2 too. Or I 'm deluded. Not sure which!

Allthebestnamesareused · 26/08/2017 13:10

Congratulations to all with kids who achieved their predictions or did better than predictions and to those that didn't meet impossible predictions and to all those with the "meh" grades (not my description tbut quoting above) but that have met the grades they need to take their next step whatever that may be.

Commiserations to those that didn't get what they needed to take their next step or what they'd have liked to and good luck with your research and decisions as to what to do now.

I have 3 - a real mixture - all boys. All different type of schools for them but the school that was rigt for them.

1st - not a high achiever and desperate to stay at local state comp , 2 Bs and 7 Cs at GCSE, CDE at A level (about expectation especially after he decided himself to repeat yr 12 because grades were terrible first attempt at yr 12) but with a 2.1 in his chosen degree at a not great uni BUT got on a great graduate entry programme in his chosen career (chosen during final year at uni - no idea until then) and now earning good money. He was the one I worried about most.

Middle is at Uni now, but went to a non-selective indie - 3 x A*, 6 As (all very surprising - higher than expected due to dyslexia), BBD at A level (lower than expected at A level) but got his insurance choice RG and is doing fine at uni after year 1. His desire was medicine but it wasn't ever really going to happen although we were encouraging but realistic (but never told him he couldn't do it - he realised on his own).

Youngest is expected 9/8s (A*s) next year (2018 gcse cohort) but seems to be in decline. Not sure why - maybe coasting, maybe will turn it around. He is at a selective highly ranked indie so there will be pressure on so trying to not be so intense at home (which is hard!!).

But having been through it I realise they kind of all end up where they are supposed to be eventually and that ultimately it is their choice. We can be there to support, give guidance and suggestions - but we can't sit the exams and make the choices.

Depending on who I am talking to I either say the grades (friends who will not see me as a billy boaster) or say they did well, as expected, better than we thought. Some want to measure their child against my brainy one so I tend to just say we're delighted (not playing that game).

I will celebrate my friend's son's 3 ^s and 2 Cs as much as another's straights As because for him that was bloody brilliant.

Just remember each child is different.

I know some very poor people with firsts and some very rick people who bombed at gcses. Life is what you make it and we can but support our kids and our friends and families and their kids, whatever their grade, whatever they do.

(Sorry - that is miles longer than intended)!

MaisyPops · 26/08/2017 13:30

Allthebestnamesareused
We werent saying grades were "meh" grades.

We were talking about a group of students and how they can be the "meh brigade" e.g. not at the top, not at the bottom, dont masisvely stand out and saying those students tend to be forgotten about because they're in middle coasting along whilst lots of attention goes at the 2 extremes.

It wasn't a comment on their grade!

AlexanderHamilton · 26/08/2017 14:07

Early entry would have been devastating for my two. For dd she is very very clever & so wouldn't have achieved the best grade she's capable of, especially as she was still working out some spld.

For dd about to go into Year 9, he's nowhere near ready emotionally or maturity to be contemplating sitting public exams. I'll be grateful if he comes out with 5's when the time comes, even though on paper he's very bright.

Allthebestnamesareused · 26/08/2017 14:11

Meant "meh" brigade too just kind of misquoted but gist of my post was about "Here's to all the brigades". Also didn't think take it or read it as anyone being nasty about anyone.

lljkk · 26/08/2017 14:22

"No point in entering a DC early for an exam they'd get a much better result in sat at the proper time."

Ha! I accept I'm in a minority (on MN only) about this.
Local parents approve of early entry (almost unaminously). The points that they say are:

  • it takes the pressure down in the final year
  • prepares their children better for the big push of many exams in yr11.
  • gives their children a taste of / practise at time & stress management before the stakes are very high
  • from mental health POV, is better than the all-or-nothing experience they themselves had decades ago, takes mystique out of it, teaches them they CAN do this
  • that it makes each year more important to be in school, not just wasted time, and
  • that their kids really grasp the point of education much better for it.

I rarely hear anything negative IRL about early entry. I did not come from an all-or-nothing-exams in a small time window system. It horrifies me. Only on MN do I hear many folk they prefer it. Maybe it suits people who are great at handling high pressure so they don't see the problem. I fold under high pressure so my instincts would lie elsewhere.

I do agree English & math best left until end of yr11, though, for reasons others think apply to all GCSEs.

s4rah19 · 26/08/2017 15:32

I find it really sad how people can be disappointed if their child hasn't received the elusive '9' and are horrified that they've only got a 7 or 8! I think the pressure parents put their children under is immense, they need to realise how unimportant an exam grade is in the grand scheme of things and it's more important to nurture and protect your child's mental health than stress about a mark on a piece of paper.

Piggywaspushed · 26/08/2017 15:40

allthe best , I knew what you meant :)

The three times I have been confronted about exam entry policies as an ex HOY were all about early entry - all three parents were protesting vociferously against the policy, so this must vary a lot from school type to school type and even geographically. We only get our students in year 9.

Two of the three had summer babies : and I sympathise with that point of view entirely.

Redsrule · 26/08/2017 15:54

Like many teachers I teach groups which are set on ability. This year I had a top, very able, set and a bottom, extrordinarily weak group, the top set did really well but it was the bottom set who made my day. One girl, with a statement, had a target of 1 and got 3/3 and another with a target of 3 got 4/6. They worked so hard and the joy on their faces was fantastic. If they had been entered early it would have destroyed them.

MsHarry · 26/08/2017 15:55

I find it really sad how people can be disappointed if their child hasn't received the elusive '9' and are horrified that they've only got a 7 or 8! I

Haven't heard anyone on this thread saying that. My DD got an 8, wants to know her mark to see how close she was to a 9. I was delighted with her mark, tried to talk her out of looking into it but ultimately supporting her if it's that important to her and ultimately her mental health, as you put it.

MsHarry · 26/08/2017 15:58

By the way my DD was jumping for joy when she opened her results, when she phoned me we both cried. There is no sadness or disappointment. It was only later when she calmed that she wanted to know her score. I have always told her it's ok to just get enough to make the next step and if she didn't get enough, we retake/rethink. The pressure comes from herself.

ProfessorLayton1 · 26/08/2017 16:16

Same here- we were very happy with her results, we talk a lot about everything/anything. She is a very well balanced child!! How can anyone presume that there must be parental pressure...
I did not even know which exam was on which days?

there is absolutely no pressure from us at all - some of us have children like the way they are.
What is wrong with children aiming high and working towards it?
Just because she wanted a remark does not mean that she was disappointed with her results.. she just wants to know why?
We are in the city centre for her dress shopping before she starts A level - she is in Waterstones ,as she was bored after an hour of shopping ,getting books to read.

Piggywaspushed · 26/08/2017 16:38

I don't think people think it's wrong : just a bit envious and I think the conversation started around the fact that on MN we don't hear much about or from parents of the middle, whose achievements also aren't much lauded in RL.

If I had an academic high flier I'd be shouting from the rooftops, have no fear!

Piggywaspushed · 26/08/2017 16:39

I think the most parental pressure is placed on the kids in the middle too, from my experience as a parent and teacher.

EllieFredrickson · 26/08/2017 17:59

We are querying a 7 but not because of disappointment with DD. Because school think the performance on one paper looks so out of step with everything. In the end she has excellent results and we'll be happy with a 7 but she doesn't want to spend her life wondering about the result and I think needs to have confidence in the exam board going forward into A level. I've heard lots about the on screen marking systems and how many scripts AQA had left to mark just before the deadline for ofqual submission of results to make me wonder.

And believe me I feel really guilty about the results enquiry and we should just suck it up. DH and I have had lots of discussions about how probably loads of kids lower down the attainment scale might end up with the wrong results as no one queries them and they might not have the "middle class" advantages my daughter has. It makes me feel shit quite frankly but DD is my daughter and I have to help and support her.

School by the way are saying that AQA are awful this year post results compared to the others.

Showandtell · 26/08/2017 18:08

I did this 4 times yesterday Peace and I feel bad for my DD, I am hiding the extent of her success because I want to save other parent's feelings.

Yes! That's what we all do! I have an extremely gifted sporty child and she often wins/qualifies for things. When people ask me how she did, I say really well thanks! And then change the subject. It's polite and well mannered. NOONE needs to boast or even tell anyone other than friends or family the ins and outs.

Showandtell · 26/08/2017 18:09

Don't feel bad for your.dd. If she sees you considering other people's feelings you will be teaching her a valuable life lesson. Being thoughtful and humble is worth as much if not more than top grades.

LoniceraJaponica · 26/08/2017 20:03

"I did not even know which exam was on which days?"

Really? Hmm

I am struggling to believe that.

ProfessorLayton1 · 26/08/2017 21:04

LoniceraJaponica
You can or cannot believe it..it is up to you! but she had her timetable stuck on her wall and that's all I know.

While your child manages herself how to revise all her schooling years and always achieves the top grades- why would you interfere?
I know from MN threads that some parents manage their children's revision - that's it what these parents need to do so their children achieve what they can , there is nothing wrong with this approach at allI don't judge!

She was quite chilled during her exams - I was expecting her to be stressed as I was aware that this could from some of my friends- luckily she did not and there was no need for me to act that this is something special and make her stressed out.
As I said my other Dd is completely different and I may have to get involved more with her- time will tell.

Witchend · 26/08/2017 22:18

ProfessorLayton1
I wouldn't have known for dd1 either what exam she was taking apart from a couple (like additional maths) that stood out. They didn't do study leave, so she went in as normal and came out as normal.
She's an independent young lady who knows what she wants and will work at it. She wouldn't have appreciated me interfering.

I suspect dd2 will want me to know exactly what she's doing so I can help her check she's got the right things for the right exam, and ds I may need to know to make sure he arrives at the right place. Grin

Piggywaspushed · 26/08/2017 22:54

Can't help but notice how many of these amazing independent, driven, self motivated high achievers are girls....

booellesmum · 26/08/2017 23:07

I definitely knew what exams were being taken as I spent most of the evening before them marking and going through the past papers she'd done in the day. I would say I hope to never have to look at a past paper again but she's doing A-levels.

ProfessorLayton1 · 26/08/2017 23:14

Piggy- unfortunately this does not transpire into these girls reaching the top of the career in most cases!

charlmum60 · 26/08/2017 23:14

There was a Blog post that came out from my DD's HT sometime last year - just stating how important it was to teach our children how to deal with disappointment and how we actually learn more from our failings than probably our successes (This is a successful school 72%+ of all grades were A/a*). I do think this is important (but understand why some parents MAY want papers remarked)...in the workplace where they will all mostly "end up" its not always about academic achievement - and it is so important that our children can pick themselves up and dust themselves down and recover from setbacks...

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