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Younger brother being bullied

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CarrieF94 · 03/07/2017 17:19

From my last thread you might know I have a younger brother, he is twelve. Last September he started Secondary school without any hitches, but the last week he's been getting caught in fights with a few year eleven boys, he's in year seven . He comes home with bloody noses, bruises and on one occasion a swollen eye

I've talked to his teacher, his head of year and his head teacher. They're not going to do anything. I don't think they really care

Would it be wise to move him to a different school? I know he's not starting the fights. They wind him up til he yells at them to shut it. Then they attack him.

There's NO WAY I'd go to our Mother, she's as useless as a chocolate fireguard.

Thanks in advance

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RedHelenB · 03/07/2017 18:26

Are you are they are year 11 as they should have left by now? I really cannot see any school.say they are going to do nothing about 1 11 year old getting beaten up by a gang of 15 /16 year olds. What exactly did his head of year say?

PotatoesAreDelicious · 04/07/2017 06:37

What does their bullying policy say they will do?

For fighting at my son's school it is instant isolation for all parties involved. My son was subjected to low level bullying, school followed the policy document to the letter and it stopped immediately.

Your school's policy should be on their school website. Quote it at them, in writing so there is a paper trail.

They have a duty of care to safeguard your brother.

youarenotkiddingme · 04/07/2017 06:58

I believe the school won't do anything.

My ds school suggested I live HIM when I asked them to do something to stop another kid physically bullying him.

Then 2 weeks later when this child pulled a knife on ds in a lesson he got excluded for 2 days and ds was left unable to attend school due to fear - and the Ht refused to meet me Shock

Personally despite the fact your brother should be safe and school should deal with it I'd say if they clearly won't I'd look into moving. My ds moved and it's been the making of him.

Firstly I'd send an email stating what's happened and ask them how they will deal with it.

Judge your next move from their answer.

mummytime · 04/07/2017 07:25

Youare - not all schools are as useless as your DS's previous school.
At my DCs school there are a wide range of measures and bullying is treated very seriously. There is even a way to anonymously report bullying.
OP you need to read the bullying policy to see what they say they will do (all schools have one - and it is a public document, usually found on the website). Could you get your mother to delegate some responsibility for your brother to you?
If the behaviour is cracked down on quickly then it can stop. I am very surprised that if it is pupils in years 11 or 10 that it is not being taken more seriously.

youarenotkiddingme · 04/07/2017 07:31

I know that mummy
I was responding to OP and the poster who said I'm sure school won't ignore pupils being beaten up.

That's why I said some schools do and it's not worth remaining if nothing will change. And then suggested how to approach it and to take it from there.

My sons current school are amazing and are right on top of any issues and admit bullying happens. I know how amazing some schools can be too.

Borntoflyinfirst · 04/07/2017 07:49

These stories of Heads doing nothing are appalling. We reported some incidents of bullying my 12 year old dd last week directly to the Head of her school. Within 24 hours all had been spoken to and punishments given. He was very forceful that bullying would not be tolerated in his school which was reassuring for us and dd and clearly effective to the boys concerned. Don't let this lie. Keep on quoting that bullying policy until it is acted on.

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CarrieF94 · 17/07/2017 10:10

My brother is moving schools, one of the year eleven boys kicked him down a flight of stairs, thank heavens no bones were broken. But he had a few bruises on his abdomen and face, he's also had to have stitches above his eyebrow (Nine of them) The Headteacher just gave me the "Boys will be Boys" excuse so I took it to the school Governor and Bless the Man he found my brother a spot at a new school

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CauliflowerSqueeze · 23/07/2017 15:43

How did Year 11 bully him when they are not in school? They are all on exam leave?

It's unbelievably rare for any Year 11 or 10 or even 9 boy to even bother looking in the direction of a Year 7 boy.

TribalArts · 23/07/2017 16:05

I'm glad your DB has found a new school, BUT.... I'm not sure this shows the school governor is any good light really. It sounds a bit passive agressive, "don't like our school? AlrighT, we'll find you another one" Hmm.

TribalArts · 23/07/2017 16:05

'In' any good light.

Wolfiefan · 23/07/2017 16:09

Is he fighting or getting beaten up? One will see him being excluded and one is bullying?
What have his parents or guardians done?

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