Hi, I have no idea if I'm in the right place with this thread and it might be a bit rambly but here goes …
DD is in year 10 at secondary school so start of GCSE's. She's always been able to read well and is one of the smartest in her year. Recently (last year I think) she had been reading through her ruler (it's a flexible blue one with all the numbers rubbed off so a bit like an overlay) when they were doing stuff from text books in class. That obviously wasn't very practical so I found a piece of blue plastic we had lying around (throwback to when they did craft things so I kept absolutely everything) and she uses that.
This was all lead by her when I said about someone she knew at primary school having an overlay she said "yeah, they were dyslexic. Overlays are generally dyslexic things." As I said, she's pretty smart and seems to have done her research so I did as well.
Things on the internet said about spelling which I think is relevant to her. She's always had trouble spelling some basic words (says is always written as sais) but it seems to vary. She said that she spells the words phonetically, the way the letters sound. This means that there are double letters where they should be single and vica versa. There were a few other things she was a perfect match on as well like having almost no organisational skills whatsoever.
School have never said anything (but she has an excellent memory so for spelling tests she memorises them and seems to have forgotten them hours later) but a couple of teachers have seen her with the overlay and said she should talk to some teacher about having it in exams or the papers being printed in a different colour. The way she said it they seem to be assuming there is some sort of official diagnosis though. And she has no idea who the teacher they were talking about is so we're a bit stuck on that point unless we search the schools email system for them (her suggestion).
She tried to explain what it was like reading but she's not good with words so I'm not quite sure what she meant. It was something about how sometimes she sees all the words and can read them but they don't string together to form a sentence that she can make any sense out of. She's especially bad reading out loud, you can sort of see a problem. She's really stuttery and pauses every few words. And she seems to try to predict the next bit of the sentence and when it's phrased slightly differently to how she expects she's thrown off and has to go back to a natural break in the sentence and go from there again.
Now I'm just wondering if I was a bad mum for not noticing something right under my nose or if she was just really able to hide it. I really don't know what to do - her reading really isn't that bad but occasionally it just seems to totally go. DD seems pretty sure about it, and she is probably looking at it more accurately than I can but neither of us are sure of the next step.
Is dyslexia all about the reading aspect or are all the other things just as relevant ? If it's not dyslexia then what else could it be ?