Have year 7's always been this over-dramatic?!

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I went to a private girls school so maybe I don't understand the realities of comps but DD's experience so far of year 7 has surprised me. Constant people asking each other out, having massive fall outs and not talking for weeks, lots of teasing and nasty behaviour. They have only known each other for a few weeks! I expected this when they were teens but not that she would be thrown straight in the deep end.

Feeling a bit concerned as she is getting very over whelmed by the whole thing and I don't know if or when to intervene or just hope it all settles down. She is a sweet and fairly quiet girl and is finding it hard to keep friends at this stage - her new best friend has just dumped her and unfollowed her on instagram and she has no idea why but gets shouted at if she tries to ask.

Anyone else found year 7 to be like this or have we chosen a school full of drama queens?

Pettswood - that sounds great but I'm not sure if making suggestions like that would come across like I'm one of 'those' parents. Any ideas how to phrase it without sounding like I'm trying to do their job for them?

The peak huh? Looking forward to the Xmas hols already then! Feel like I sent her into the lion pit this morning. Poor girl. Gave her a pep talk and cuddle but she looked very apprehensive. Wish she was a bit more confident in herself but that's always been a weakness.

Well I've emailed the form tutor. Let's see what happens now... Thanks all.

We're having it the other way round. DS wasn't in the 'in crowd' in primary school. People liked him, but he wasn't 'alpha' enough for the football boys and he had friends who were girls, which made him an oddball. Now he's in year 7, suddenly having friends who are girls has elevated his social standing massively. There's a lot of 'playing' at having boyfriends and girlfriends, but behind it they are finally learning to make proper friends with the opposite sex. DS currently has a 'girlfriend' but I think it's all very innocent and I'm just really pleased at how happy he seems to be making all these new friends. I am always doubtful about social media but I have snooped on his instagram and there's nothing mean on there - just a whole load of new friends.

My DD didn't have an easy time with friendships in Year 7. There was a big fall out with her main friend, they are no longer friends. She's probably lovely, but this girl seems a bit odd now as I think DD is better off with other friends. She did have fall outs with others, but sorted them out or they've learnt to accept others faults. It's certainly not easy for them (or us) going through this, but I think it's part of finding who they fit in with. Now DD is in Year 11 now, part of two brilliant friendship groups and there are plenty of others she can chat to if her friends are prefecting/doing coursework at lunchtimes.

If nastiness goes from more than being difficult or making the odd nasty comments (ie my DD felt threatened by one girl and this came to a head out of school) do raise it with the school. My DD's school were fantastic, within an hour they'd heard both girls side of the story and it was explained to DD what would happen if this girl continued. It stopped there.