School exclusion

[Prostolos13]

Today my daughter been excluded from the school for fixed term. When she came home she was extremely upset because she has been accused of being racist. For me it was a shock because we are "mixed race family". She explained that the boy was rude to her so she mocked his accent.
I understand and agree that this behaviour needs to be addressed, but find it difficult to call it racial abuse.
I also can't help but feel that if we deal with things like that through rigorous punishment we are teaching our kids to be victims. The reality is that on a daily basis at work I come across people who find my accent funny or correct my pronunciation. Should I report all of those to the Police? Or I can choose to think differently, as I sure that not all of them do it because they hate me. Aren't we just giving our kids permission to feel offended anytime someone disagrees with them or have a different opinion.
I am not excusing my daughter, but isn't it just rude to mock accent? Especially where 13 year olds are involved?
I am planning to complain to schools Governing Body. Do you think it's worth it or should I just accept it and do nothing?

I think there is undoubtedly more to this than your dd is sharing with you. You need to make an appointment and get the whole story. Then you can decide what to do next. I would not over react and move schools because of it until you have more info. Your dd is obviously surprised to have been excluded and is probably embarrassed. She also knows that you are upset. It is obviously better for her if you are upset and outraged at the school rather than angry with her! Take some time to find out from someone other than your dd before you decide on this.

How did it go with school?

Youarenotkiddingme I get what you are saying and feel for your Son. My own ds has many black friends and i have seen on WhatsApp they often will call each other the N word. I have had to warn my ds who is white under no circumstances to use that word as it is offensive and he would be in serious trouble. Of course he questions why they call each other it in jest if it is so bad.