11+ applications - dealing with other boasty parents!

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So I've already got another thread here about the competitive environment that North London is, and this brings me to another issue - other parents!

We are in islington so no grammar schools but heaps of people apply for the handful of selective state schools elsewhere that we are eligible to apply for. The results have started coming in and already I have had a few mums approach me to share the news of how well their DC have done. This will be repeated in February once the private school exams are over.

Any strategies for just brushing it off? Or just coming to terms with it?

Very sensible advice Blu

Blu - I am afraid that where I am in North london it's a bit of a secondary school war zone - among the people we know, the ones who didn't manage to get one of the handful of state selective places will be going for the private schools places (including us), where the competition is just as fierce, and so our options are very limited.

It is indeed a war zone and we have quite a few refugees in west London lol!

From North London to west London I mean (annoying that we can't edit on MN) I really hope you will be happy with your choices OP. The wait is agonisingly long, the stress mounts, it will get worse before it gets better. A colleague ended up sending his DD to one the local comprehensives in north London and he was pleasantly surprised.

...by how good the school is and how well his DD is doing.

We are in grammar area and most of DS's friends took it.

It's horrible but you can't win. DS did well and I'm very proud. However not all of his friends did.

There are children that I genuinely care about and want to know how they did. I also really want to know which school they're all going to as it affects DS's choice.

But I don't ask because it's seen as boasty.

It's not really a nice situation for anyone to be in.