i know it's not the done thing

[Nimble2014]

to boast about your children's achievements, but I'm so very proud of my daughter. She has always achieved average marks, but this year she told me she would do better. Despite her teachers' predictictions, she did do better, and I'm chuffed to bits.
I don't have anyone to boast to, and just really, really want someone to tell me that she's done well. I'm so very,very proud ofher.
I get I 'm being self indulgent, but goddamit, Ive gotno-one to congratulate me/my daughter.
I'm talikng about gcse's by the way

Hi Nimble

A massive well done to your DD on her results! You must be incredibly proud, and rightly so!

Bojororo and Crumbs are right, universities wouldn't look unfavorably on three A levels as opposed to four, especially if they're relevant A levels with good grades. If she's wanting to go on to university it might be useful to check course requirements for institutions she's interested in as some courses don't accept subjects such as general studies when they make an offer.

How is your DD doing now? Has she settled into her studies? It's worrying that you mention she self harms. Has she had and treatment for this? Do school/college offer any support, even with a CAMHS outreach worker?

Huge congrats to your DD and well done to you for obviously giving her the balance of support and encouragement. Must have been tough for all concerned.
What As is she doing? Is she coping so far? I thought the whole idea of doing 4 A levels had been dropped? Some schools used to offer General Studies as a 4th but most Unis actually don't count it!! Maybe people can advise which one of her 4, depending on her career thoughts, would be best to drop?

Doing 3 A levels in yr 12 is ok if the student knows what they want to do and has picked the right subjects. There's also a bit of a risk if one of them turns out to be too big a step up from A level. So starting 4 but dropping one as plans firm up and maybe after yr 12 exams (if no AS) may still be wise for some.

Does your DD know what she wants to do, and what subjects is she doing?

And congratulations on her achievements to date!

Thank-you bojorojo. She is interested in the sciences, but hasn't really narrowed down what career she would like. Which would make choosing what universities to check out difficult. I am glad that 3 A levels will do, as I do worry about how much pressure she puts on herself.

Well done, OP, and OP's daughter!

Sorry, I should learn to refresh before replying.
She is doing maths, chemistry physics and art, and looking to drop art, because it is so time consuming.
I asked her school for help as soon as I found out about the self harm. She went to see a counsellor a couple of times, and then decided she no longer needs to.
I can't be sure whether it is continuing, but she says she doesn't do it anymore. I have never been able to figure out why it started, and if it has stopped, why it would do so now. This is always at the back of my mind though when I see her getting stressed over school work.
As far as I know, her friendships at school are good - good, supportive friends.

Maths, physics and chemistry are perfect for keeping most science options open, and art is notorious for being a massive amount of work so dropping it might make sense.