Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Secondary education

Connect with other parents whose children are starting secondary school on this forum.

dd seems to be going down the drain

30 replies

RhodaBull · 30/06/2016 09:42

End of year 8.

Dd is (like all MN dcs, of course) a clever person. I am now becoming rather concerned about her. She has always been very reserved, but now has hardly any friends. Her peer group is unfortunately not the best. Ds, who went to same school, had lovely friends but it appears to be hunt the brain cell in dd's tutor group, particularly amongst the girls (they all went on from primary school, so I do have some knowledge).

She has had detention three times this week - "deteriorating attitude" was twice and now she has confessed that she has been marked late five times. She always leaves the house in good time. I am not looking forward to the school report...

She just can't seem to be bothered with work, and puts in minimal effort for homework/assessments. Every day she comes home and says the lessons were dull. Such a depressing attitude.

What can I do? (And before anyone suggests it, no, too poor for private school and too rich for bursary.)

OP posts:
SilverDragonfly1 · 02/07/2016 09:34

I'm going to be very cheeky here and offer some unasked for advice based on my experiences!

If your daughter tells you about things that are making her upset and angry, even if they're really daft or common, don't minimise it with 'everyone goes through this' type comments. At that age and stage the last thing you need to hear is that even your own thoughts and feelings aren't unique or special. I don't know what you said about the brexit debate thing for eg, but 'That sounds really boring and frustrating' would be far more valuable to her than dismissal or teasing, however gentle and well meant.

MrsJayy · 02/07/2016 09:34

Dd has a learning difficulty and i sent her to drama at 10 she was struggiling with the social side of school she was also left out of parties and being asked for sleepovers so she was always busy on a Saturday iyswim so it gave her something else to focus on and not be to upset if she wasnt invited again.

Balletblue · 02/07/2016 15:46

Seconding the drama group idea. My dd is a misfit at school to some degree and completely blossoms at drama - mainly with a lovely bunch of assorted teenagers and adults. It gives her some stability in her rocky path through school.

thesandwich · 02/07/2016 15:59

Can you find something she could do in the summer? Drama course or art? Something yo boost her esteem. Doesn't matter what! It is a horrid age.

MrsJayy · 02/07/2016 18:00

13/14 is a horrible age

New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread