11+ Tutoring, unhappy child, grammar or comp??

[TreeHuggerMum1]

Might waffle a bit but here goes.
My son has always been bright and confident, lives primary school, and is in "silver" for pretty much everything. He is also very sporty and plays football, karate and does a dance class.
We always planned for him to go to Grammar school and this was always considered "achievable" by the school.
He started his tutoring in Sep and has been a vile child ever since...
He argues back, is badly behaved when out and about, is mean to his siblings, hasn't finished some of his school homework to the standards required, he had a test with his tutor and only answered half of the questions and of those only got half right...
My question is do you think this is connected to the 11+ tutoring and homework or am I reading too far into things. I have asked him why he is difficult and he says he doesn't realise he is, he says he likes his tutor and is happy to go to whatever school I want him to go to and he will know children at both the grammar school and the local comp.
Is anyone else experiencing the same with their almost 10 years old boy?
Has anyone tried to do the grammar / 11+ without tutoring and been successful?

I think we're in a massively competitive area for schools in the top 5 in the country and absolutely nobody does that level of tutoring Alimonkey, that's absolutely insane.

Our tutor (very well regarded, my DC loved her) actually won't take children before October of Year 5. And it's very gradual and fun.

I have never heard of anyone doing 2-3 sessions a week, plus Saturdays.

But I also agree that "tutoring" is a process, not the identity of the person doing it. So yes, if you prepared your child with systematic practice, doing practice papers etc, that is "tutoring".

Blimey Alimonkey I don't know anyone that did that much tutoring but I suppose I'm in Trafford so it might be different.

The norm here is tutor once a week from October in Y5 till the exams in October in Y6. Some parents bought books that they went through with their DC. By the time it was DD's turn her primary were doing familiarisation lessons before/after school too.

OP FWIW my DS was awful from Y5 until Y10! And now I've got my lovely boy back. It might just be your DS's age and coincidence that it started at the same time as tutoring.

Newlifeforme a ten year old has neither the maturity nor experience to make major decisions like which school to go to!!