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How do you change schools after serious/threatening incident?

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kid · 04/12/2006 21:47

I wonder if anyone has had to do this?
My nephew has had a fair amount of trouble at his school. The latest incident is he was mugged by some older children that go to his school. They are now threatening him to prevent him from grassing and he is scared to go back to school.

My sister doesn't know what to do, her DH wants their son taken out of the school. What should she do and how?

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Pixiefish · 04/12/2006 21:48

phone the ed dept of the local authority and ask which other schools are int he area

expatinscotland · 04/12/2006 21:50

Yes.

This is physical assualt on public property. NO WHERE ELSE would this be allowed to go w/o pressing charges, but somehow it's okay b/c it happened in a school? To children?

Sorry, but that's just wrong.

I would take that boy out immediately.

I work with a young man, now doing wonderfully in his third year of uni, who was the target of bullies who assualted him.

He was home educated for the last 4 years of secondary school as a result, b/c there was no other school around for miles.

Before he was pulled out, he was self-harming and suicidal.

NO PLACE is worth that!

I'd have filed charges w/the police.

People like this aren't just bullies, they're criminals.

cat64 · 04/12/2006 21:52

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Thecharmed1 · 04/12/2006 21:59

Kid, i didn't know this, when did this happen today?

ParanoidSurreyHousewife · 04/12/2006 21:59

Move him and then tell the school.

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:00

It was on his way home from school that it happened, they mugged him and then beat him up. My sister and her DH have a meeting scheduled for Wednesday, the school already know who the boys are as they do this alot but it never goes any further. The police were informed for insurance purposes, they said they will be going to the school.
He is in year 8 now, this was his 2nd choice of schools.
Others have been attacked by these boys, but they make it very clear that if you grass your in big trouble with them. Its easy for us as adults to say they can't do it, but its very real for a scared 13 year old that has to face them in school.

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Thecharmed1 · 04/12/2006 22:02

I always thought they should take D out of that school when the last thing happened, but they need to think the boys that mugged/beat him on Thursday know where they live!

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:02

charmed1, I don't know the full details. I know he didn't go to school today and I know the boys were waiting outside for him. Of course things could get twisted along the way, but I know I wouldn't send him back to school, he is terrified. He is saying if they get hold of him, he won't be around to see Christmas

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:03

I don't believe they know where he lives, but I am sure they could find out if they wanted to.

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frogs · 04/12/2006 22:03

Flipping Nora, kid! Am I right in thinking you are in Hackney? We are too, so not short of roughish elements, but this would be totally, totally unthinkable at the dc's school. Kids get suspended for getting carried away with the playfights, never mind the real McCoy.

Unless the school shows genuine and very swift signs of dealing with it effectively I'd be out of there. How old is he?

expatinscotland · 04/12/2006 22:03

And judging from the number of incidents we've had this year where pupils have been murdered by their classmates at school, we have every reason to take threats like this seriously.

There is NO WAY I'd send him to that school again.

UCM · 04/12/2006 22:06

, nothing to add but total disbelief and sadness that things have come to this today. I would not send the child back to the school either. Changing schools is a good idea.

Thecharmed1 · 04/12/2006 22:07

I feel like going to the school and hitting some crap out of them fucker$
Poor D, i didn't realise he was this terrified, he didn't really seem that bad on Friday!
And D must be worried about him as well, its not fair that he has to be pushed away from any mates he has made because of these bullies

What are the police gonna be able to do bacause D dont wanna take any further action because of the threats they have made to him

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:10

Yes I am in Hackney Frogs, he is 13 and goes to an all boys school.
It would seem the school want to use my nephew to take action on these boys, even though they do plenty wrong in class which could lead to a permanent exclusion.
I can completely understand my newphew and support him for not wanting to be that person. These boys don't care who gets hurt from their actions and I know the school would be unable to protect him all of the time no matter how hard they try.

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:14

We think the police or school may have already spoken to the boys, which could be why they were waiting for him tonight. It might have been to teach him a lesson rather than warn him, its not worth taking the chance. I am definately going to encourage D to more his school. Take him out of there while the find him another place.

I think he is ok as long as he doesn't think about it. He hasn't been out by himself since it happened.

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cat64 · 04/12/2006 22:16

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:17

Its a bus ride, so there is not really much chance of avoiding them. Unless he was allowed to finish school slightly earlier to get a head start?

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Thecharmed1 · 04/12/2006 22:17

I just cant believe that they followed him and attacked him near enough outside the bloody library and nobody said anything
i would have started shouting my mouth off and phoning the old bill at the same time
And to think 2 minute more and he could have been home, fucking arseholes, they are making my blood boil again

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kid · 04/12/2006 22:19

I was very angry about it all to begin with, but I don't feel angry towards them anymore. I just feel very sad for D. He did nothing to deserve this, no dealings or trouble with them at all.

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Thecharmed1 · 04/12/2006 22:24

I just cant believe that they think they are big boys, beating up a boy thats 2 years younger than them
There effing wimps in my eyes!
They will meet there match one day and see that its not very nice to do the things they do!

expatinscotland · 05/12/2006 00:15

I'm tellin' ya, it can be turned around, even if they have to be pulled out of school.

That young man I work with is living proof - he has moved on for the best! He's got the scars to prove it, and he is now working w/organisations specialising in young people who have been bullied, but he makes everyone who knows him very proud.

Thecharmed1 · 06/12/2006 20:50

Kid, did you hear about D today?

M told me, so not sure of the whole story!

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kid · 06/12/2006 21:42

yeah, I heard what happened today. Sounds hopeful as long the school do what they have promised.

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Thecharmed1 · 06/12/2006 21:48

Poor D still has to see them and put up with anything they give in the school, and what if they wait for him when J dont get him?
To many chances to take if you ask me, but also he cant keep running because there will be bullies everywhere he goes!

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