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Year 12 disaster - is it too late to move?

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Fatfreefaff · 04/10/2015 11:56

Myself and DD made an absolutely disastrous choice to move school in year 12. Although she went to a strict school before she got through 5 years without any 'consequences' - at the new school she seems to be in constant trouble with lateness or detentions. She has also acquired what seems to be a rather abusive and controlling boyfriend and I really don't like her friendship group. She now lies constantly and is rude to me.

Does anyone know whether it would be too late to move to another state school or FE college? She is doing 4 AS levels. We are in reach of anywhere in central or west London. I really need to get her out of there.

Any advice welcome.

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cricketballs · 04/10/2015 14:18

The census for 6th form student enrolment and hours was done on Thursday (1st October) so I know in my school we would not accept any new students now (I'm happy to be corrected if others will)

Op, I appreciate and understand your position; my DS did this (although it was over a longer period of time for this to become apparent); all I can say that following a year from he'll with him which ended with him failing his AS exams, getting a caution for shop lifting , constant war zone at home we gave him an ultimatum - either leave that college (which would mean leaving the group of 'friends' he had fallen in with or he leaves home. It was the hardest time for us as a family, but it worked - he started at a new college, New course and ended up with very high grades, 5 uni offers and us currently in his 2nd year at a very good uni.

In hindsight, the year from hell was a blessing in disguise as I don't think he was mature enough to go away for uni at the same time of his age group and he has 'done the mistakes' and learnt from it.

Good luck xx

Fatfreefaff · 04/10/2015 16:38

Thanks Cricket. I have to get her away from the nasty abusive twat she is seeing who is in her form at school even if it means leaving education for now. I have reached the end of the line with her constant lying and being dangled like a puppet on a string by said boyfriend.

I don't know where to turn. Perhaps social services can suggest something. I feel like kicking her out but want her to be safe.

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eatyourveg · 04/10/2015 19:15

Pretty sure our FE college is still taking people - newcomers seem to arrive anytime up until half term when everyone is reassessed to make sure they are on the right course and right level - there is a fair amount of movement at half term every year but we are not in central or west London. Check out the FE colleges in your area, give them a ring and see if open enrolment is still going on.

Draylon · 05/10/2015 16:34

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SuburbanRhonda · 05/10/2015 16:42

I think that whatever you and she decide, bear in mind that they now have to be in training or education until they are 18. So if education is not what she wants, have a look for an apprenticeship.

Also, and I'm sure you already know this, the more you try to discourage her relationship, the closer they will get. Good luck Flowers

TeenAndTween · 05/10/2015 18:43

Draylon the other threads filled up.
(OP sorry for slightly derailing to respond to Draylon who is in my area)

First, people do 'restart' 6th form as in after not succeeding in first year, restart on a different 2 year course. (I know this as I asked when we looked round places in case DD did A levels and couldn't cope). So if he blows this year in terms of results he can restart (elsewhere with new kids?) a different set of courses elsewhere.

I expect you did all this when you were looking for Plan B and Plan C before, but does he have any interests / skills that might direct him towards a career or a relevant BTEC?

DD has gone for a mixed BTEC / AS route at Brock (who do a wider range of BTECs than BP and a full range of A level too). But we found finding a BTEC hard as she also has no real idea of what she might want to do career wise. We found the Brock one in the end and it ties in to her outside interests and general skills.

You know the open evenings are on again? BP this week, PS soon, and Brock next week and the week after. Eastleigh no doubt too and probably Sparsholt. Any point in going and looking around them with your DS?

I suspect but don't know that it is too late to swap courses now (especially as he doesn't have an urgent desire for something else), so I would think maybe better to pursue the AS unless he is chucked out / he comes up with an alternative plan for the future. At least he is going in to college for lessons, even if not staying there for frees. If he just drops out he may sink into doing nothing at all (and child benefit will stop I think, so if not earning by dropping out he'll cost you money).

I expect you just want to give him a good shake!

Flowers

ps Are you sure he is capable of arranging his own self-study? It's not that he can't but doesn't want to admit it? (I'm sitting with DD every evening and agreeing what she will do in the next day's frees.)

TeenAndTween · 05/10/2015 19:05

Draylon Have posted response on your new thread, as I shouldn't derail fats thread.

fats As all you are looking to do is move colleges not change A levels, I guess this should be possible if your DD agrees ....

Draylon · 05/10/2015 19:51

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