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GCSE"s - what is the right reward / pressie / amount of cash for success??

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alli1968 · 19/08/2015 10:57

I genuinely don't know what parents are doing for this - i don't get to meet up with other parents so would appreciate any pointers??

BTW anyone else nervous??

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Coconutty · 19/08/2015 11:05

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TeenAndTween · 19/08/2015 11:05

Well, I did a something after the exams were taken as a reward for the hard work. DD may or may not get her predicted or desired grades, but she worked her socks off.

We will be going out for a Chinese tomorrow regardless.

The 'right' amount is whatever feels right for you, that you can afford, and that is sustainable for younger siblings too.

But not right imo to reward a lazy bright child who gets As more than a hard working not so academic child who gets Cs.

Puffinella · 19/08/2015 11:06

I agree, a "well done!" was what I got, and was happy with.

coffeeisnectar · 19/08/2015 11:06

Just a well done and a take away of their choice is suffice.

I took my dd to sprinkles last week after she got her AS results before dropping her back to NCS.

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alli1968 · 19/08/2015 11:10

Thanks Coconutty and TeenAndTween - yes think a meal out is the best route. He did work hard but I just can't gauge what tomorrow will bring!

hope tomorrow is good for you both x

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alli1968 · 19/08/2015 11:12

thanks coffeisnectar and Puffinella x

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GlitzAndGigglesx · 19/08/2015 11:18

I got in trouble because mine were so bad , but a girl in my year was given £100 and new mobile phone for passing

wakeupandsmellthecoffee · 19/08/2015 11:19

I gave my DS a gift strait after the exams for the effort he had put in revising and trying his best .
I personally think that you shouldn't reward for results as each child is different .Also some find exams easy and add some really struggle so surely you should reward for effort .
Fingers crossed for every kid that is waiting for results on Thursday good or bad .

titchy · 19/08/2015 11:29

Mine's getting a hearty pat on the back and nothing else

Theas18 · 19/08/2015 12:27

For the actual results- a hearty pat on the back and maybe a family meal out that's all.

After GCSEs in the long break for DC 1 and 2 we did a lovely city break just me and them. It was fab. DC3 " it's complicated" there have been many stressors this summer not related to her. We will do it sometime though.

A lot of large amounts of money " per A *" and similar bandied about amongst the eldest 2s mates. That's just awful I reckon, especially for my DD2 who loads the pressure on herself anyway

aginghippy · 19/08/2015 13:14

We are going out for lunch together. Mind you, even if she doesn't get the grades she wants, we will still be going out for lunch.

Fierceflora · 19/08/2015 13:19

We're going out for dinner in the eve as a family at ds restaurant choice. He is also getting some cash. That was dh's bright idea so he can fork out For that

Savagebeauty · 19/08/2015 13:21

Dd got £200 last week for A levels and DS will get £200 for GCSEs tomorrow.
They've both worked hard and I have no problem giving them some money to go and have some fun with
They've not had a holiday as such this summer .
I got money 40 years ago for O levels.

MyNewAccount · 19/08/2015 13:21

I never gave mine anything. They never asked for anything and it didn't really occur to me to be honest.
They were as incredulous as I was when they heard of friends being paid £££'s for good grades.
I always liked to promote the view that they are working for themselves rather than parental approval. Obviously I do'approve' when they do well but other than a pat on the back and a nice meal we don't do anything more. They know and appreciate the fact that we are supportive parents - I don't think money needs to change hands.

RapidlyOscillating · 19/08/2015 13:24

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Dunlurking · 19/08/2015 13:25

Last year we agreed in advance a certain amount per achieved predicted grade put towards an ipad mini (they to pay the balance) More if exceeding prediction. That way it is fair for subsequent children if they are higher or lower achievers. We were worried ds wasn't working hard enough and would miss the lot and did it out of desperation. In retrospect I don't think it helped. He hit 4 predictions and missed the rest by one grade. We are stuck with it now for dd in 2 years.

dingit · 19/08/2015 13:25

Just going out for lunch. No cash, but she's just been on holiday with us to California. Weekend will be shopping for clothes and stuff for sixth form.

Iusedtobeapenguin · 19/08/2015 13:30

We bought DS a laptop when he got his GCSE results - partly as a reward but also because I was sick of him pinching mine . He also needed it for his A Levels...

Eastpoint · 19/08/2015 13:32

We gave a new laptop straight after the exams for GCSE revision effort. Nothing for ASs as I didn't think there had been enough effort.

ExitPursuedByABear · 19/08/2015 13:38

At DDs school, they get a bursary towards the sixth form for As and A*s. That should suffice.

TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/08/2015 13:45

In our house you get £10 for an A and £20 for an A*. Originally introduced as one of many desperate attempts to engage bone idle DS1, (he cost me £20). DD2 is going to rake me out tomorrow though, (fingers crossed).

MadamArcatiAgain · 19/08/2015 17:46

Education is its own reward.I think you are sending out a dodgy message by paying them.They should be doing it for themselves not for you!!

Savagebeauty · 19/08/2015 18:24

Dodgy message?

balletgirlmum · 19/08/2015 18:28

A celebratory meal out I would think.

There are so many factors including strange anomalies by exsm boards that can affect results that I would be very uncomfortable about monetary reward, especially per grade.

BertrandRussell · 19/08/2015 18:31

I had an idea that some friends have pinched. I believe in rewarding effort, so once we knew that dd was working hard, we bought her a festival ticket she wanted. The deal was that if she hit all her targets, she got the ticket. For every grade above she got a tenner on top. For every grade under, she had to contribute a tenner to the cost. So whatever happened she got her reward, but with a bit of a sting or a sweet depending!

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