Orbiting, DD is a day pupil studying science A levels, and has lots of east Asian friends. They are a diverse bunch (Korean, Japanese, Honk Kongers, British born etc.) She regularly goes into school on a Sunday to do homework with them and occasionally one will stay the night either because the flight is the next day or after a Saturday night party (though in fairness neither DD nor her friends are part of the real party circuit).
In our experience Asian pupils make a positive contribution and DS had a brilliant time staying with one of his former school friends this summer, and was told to treat them as his family in Asia. However if not managed it can end up as an unhappy experiecnce for all, with girls from a similar background sticking together and not mixing.
I guess what has helped in DDs case is:
- All girls start in the sixth form so few established cliques (other than already established London cliques given London private school pupils are only ever one Facebook friend away.)
- Boys remain in the majority, and sciency boys tend to invite the girls they know, so a mix of UK and Asian. Also there are a lot of very bright quiet boys who make friends with quiet hardworking girls.
- Day pupils are in the majority so plenty of UK based girls in science classes.
- The school interviews carefully and is probably looking for potential contribution to the school as sheer academic horse power. And they can select, which may not be the case for all. And there are lots of things, like very strong music, which provide a chance for pupils from different groups to mix.
- The boys are already a very international group, though all UK based, so new girls albeit from overseas don't standout.
- Its an urban environment so boarders and day pupils often meet up for noodles on a Sunday evening.
There will always be one or two kids who are simply there to get the best possible grades and who don't often emerge from their bedrooms, but this is not just a boarder thing, and girls studying humanities will have fewer opportunities to get to know the Asian boarders.
Below sixth form will be different, but it would be worth asking about how the school encourages mixing. Not having a Them and Us is better for all.
(An Asian friend has a story about arriving in the UK at 16 in a country boarding school terrified. She lined up for breakfast on her first day for breakfast and, Asian style, put everything into the same bowl. Porridge, Weetabix, bacon, scrambled egg. She felt the whole school was watching her. Its not easy, and 16 year old girls may not have enough experience, unless prompted, to reach out.)