DD is in year six and going up from her one form entry village primary to the local high school in September. There are 19 girls going to the same high school (very girl heavy class) and the school has a tradition that the class pick two friends that they would like to be in a high school form class with and they try to ensure that they are with at least one of those people.
The year six teacher will be asking them for their choices soon and the endless angst i am getting from DD about it is driving me mad.
Disclaimer: there is no point telling DD the choice doesn't matter as she will have plenty of chance to make new friends anyway. She will not listen and the whole choice discussion has been going on most of year 6 so it is impossible to play down. Also she has an elder sibling in the high school so she is aware that the form cllass are together virtually all the time in year 7 and quite a bit in year 8 when setting is used more.
DD did have it sorted. She was putting her longtime best friend "Jane" as first choice, and another good friend "Sue" as second. Jane and Sue was also choosing DD and each other, tying them together into a neat three.
Recently another girl "Ann" has come onto the scene and is very keen on being best friends with "Jane". Ann's mother is very keen on Ann and Jane being friends and constantly arranging for the two of them to activities together. Ann and her mother are both rather forceful types.
Now DD and Jane are coming under pressure from Ann to put her down as her second choice and she will do likewise, i.e. dumping Sue. Sue is a much better friend to DD than Ann but she is worried that if she puts Sue down as second choice she might end up in a form class with just her and Ann and Jane will end up together.
Doing my head in hearing about it and i know that DD will spend the summer very upset if she knows she won't be with her best friend since reception. How to advise her re the girl politics of this. I was massively unpopular at school so didn't have these kind of issues!