I really despaire....

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my daughter is 14 and is in year 9 at secondary school..
My daughter academically is very bright,she has been diagnosed with severe anxiety ( and i mean SEVERE!), adhd and besd(behavior and social difficulties).

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my daughter is 14 and is in year 9 at secondary school..
My daughter academically is very bright,she has been diagnosed with severe anxiety ( and i mean SEVERE!), adhd and besd(behavior and social difficulties).She is also in the middle of being diagnosed with ocd also.
My daughter has had endless problems at school... behavior wise.
she naturally isnt an agressive person towards people but if someone winds her up the wrong way i can garantee that the wall with have a fist shaped hole punched through it. My daughter becomes very gobby when confronted about anything and very defensive, she also has a big problem with getting over things, if she has had a terrible time in a lesson she will have a massive meltdown and refuse to go into that lesson the next time she has it.
My daughter has been on a bsp and a psp and has just recently passed her psp. To be honest, im really not sure how! She has been suspended&isolated so many times ive lost count.She is on the edge of being permanantly excluded...WHAT DO I DO!?? what can i say to the school? what do i suggest? PLEASE HELP!!
Along side school issues shes suffering really badly emotionally, she self harms severly. She has seen camhs and has only just moved back down from on the edge of being admitted to a unit to tier 3.She used to be such a bubbly young happy girl, now she doesn't do anything. She'll be in her room on her own, i really despaire, i dont know what to do anymore.
Everything she is going through i will support her 110% forever and always, i just feel useless... I dont know what i can be doing to make things easier for her!
any advice recived and i will be eternally greatful :)
p.s please dont judge, its not her fault and its not fair.

I am not a professional but as a parent I would be asking the school for them to help you help your daughter.

I went to a very academic school and there were girls there who had behavioral problems. Every one of them managed to get through it, get good grades, get through university and be happy after. The school had a team of people to help and they supported the parents too. If they are not forthcoming I would speak to your gp asap.

I think you should ask if she can see the school counsellor as she does seem to have issues and needs help rather than punishments.

She needs help not exclusion. Has she always been like that? did anything happen that make her change? Have you tried counselling? Cranial ostheopathy? Relaxation techniques? Yoga? rescue remedy? Changing schools to another one that support her more? . Sorry I can't be much help but I will try everything if I were in similar circumstances.

I'm so sorry I haven't replied! Its been terrible lateley... She was suspended twice in one week!!
We went to the go, they were useless!!
I really don't know what to do anymore! The school are trying their hardest but nothing seems to be changing for her! I hate this.

What support are CAMHs offering at Tier 3 level, and are they working with the school? Your poor daughter, and poor you - the strain must be enormous.

Is she getting help with the anxiety? One of my children has an anxiety disorder and depression. He cannot concentrate in lessons and has frequent panic attacks. CAMHS have been treating him for the anxiety/depression and the school have initiated the CAF process.

Talk to CAMHS again, she's not coping with mainstream school and you need to find out the alternatives. My DS age 15 is in an inpatient psych unit with severe depression and attends school there, there are also out-patient students that attend the hospital school as they aren't coping with mainstream.

Your poor dd and you. Hope you find help soon x