school refusal / prosecution

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Has anyone been called into a meeting at the LEA for non attendance at school?
My dd has EBSR and because it is psychological not medical (?!) it goes down as unauthorised so they are pursuing a prosecution against us.
Have been called into a meeting next week under caution and would like to know what to expect ..
Thanks

Not read all the posts but just got to the GP advising you not to go to the meeting. That is dreadful advice! By all means go to the meeting with support and if necessary stop the meeting very early on saying the school clearly has no grasp on the situation and you want another meeting when the EP/CYPS has made their assessment etc. But you should go.
As someone who works in schools I know that parents not attending meetings just gives a blank cheque where we can say we would have offered x y z but they didn't show up.
Hope that make sense, good luck op.

Why is it too stressful for you? I thought she was the one with school refusal. Is she picking up some of her anxieties from you?

I think the OP is saying that her GP says that she shouldn't go to the meeting because of her own mental health, not that the family shouldn't go.

I don't see why this is going to be a problem since her DH is going.

If the OP's reaction to stressful situations is to avoid them though its not surprising her daughter has picked up on this and decided that's how you deal with stress. Avoidance is a pretty rubbish coping technique for situations that you need to deal with like schools.

The GP's advice was following me ending up in hospital last week. Presumably she felt it was better for my dd that I should still be around in her life for the longer term rather than going to one meeting that is most certainly not going to be the last. Fight the battles I need to win!

One of mine effectively dropped out of school at 15. She left one school at Easter in her first year of GCSE, took a term off, did a term at a college, but didn't settle, then spent 2 tems having maybe an hour a weeks private tuition in each of the subjects she was interested in. Nobody bothered us.

I did go in the end but they refused to interview me anyway. I don't really understand the system - the school refers to the LA who then refer back to the school? Seems a mess and in the meantime no one gets any support :(