Thank you all for the further replies, apologies for my slow reply, I did read them all earlier, but Im having some server problems since updating my iPad to the IOS8 thing,
I've tried a couple of times after posting in a couple of other threads & it kept crashing half way through & my stress levels were already through the roof due to the appeal, so I had to step away a bit, think I needed to step away calm down a bit anyway as this whole situation has my blood pressure through the roof & I realised I just wasn't coping well, started to feel like a mouse toyed with by a big nasty cat & felt I was losing the plot a bit
I put the appeal to one side fir a few days & concentrated on trying to cheer up DD more. it's her birthday this week, so I took her out for lunches etc ahead if it, not so easy at the moment as still struggling with crutches, but I think it did us both a bit of good :)
Thank you for your explanations of how the appeal should have gone & should go in future - that's all very useful
They guy who was Rotweiller like was the "lay person" the other panel members seemed okay, but he definitely took over & lead the show - he was a bit harsh at the plenary hearing, but not with the LAs rep, but other members of the schools panel, mainly the HT, but nothing like as bad as he was with me & he was very polite with the LAs rep at our hearing, just asking the occasional facts & figures, so not really treating us equally & had I known about the eye rolling I would have raised that with the LGO too.
I do get though that they have to wheedle out fact from trying it on & I even said to the panel that I was sure some of what I had written & had to say sounded like a sob story when they were quizzing me about needing good pastoral care for DD, so I understood them quizzing & re quizzing me on different points - I would have done the same thing had I been a panel member - but our hearing sounds far worse than anyone else I have spoken
to about their appeal - though I've not spoken to anyone else who appealed for the same school this year, so who knows, he may have been that way with them all 
I had everything ready for the appeal - the lawyer had looked over it all for me, but said she had no advice bar to concentrate on the medical need, which most of my evidence was geared too anyway & that I had it all covered - that was reassuring, though she also said that she couldn't guess how it would go on the day & she too was puzzled by them resubmitting the emails.
I noticed on going through the LAs evidence again, that I had missed that they had also submitted my covering letter for my medical needs waiting list place - this made no sense at all, as in it I listed all the reasons DD needs our chosen school, all the reasons why our allocated school is not suitable & all the reasons why we didn't choose our other local school, which our LA listed as slightly closer too us, though it isn't & the LGO agreed with that. Surely this would leave the panel wide open to questioning about our allocated school again, which was upheld in our complaint.
So I actually don't know anymore if it's really dirty tricks or just plain incompetence & they've literally just printed anything & everything off that they have with DDs name attached to the school & submitted it - it's weird, makes no sense at all
I do believe there's been ass covering over cock ups with our original application & my medical needs waiting list place conveniently missing & the CCP not replying in months was very suspicious, as it would surely blow a big hole in their own case.
Anyway, we now have further goings on & it's going to be very interesting to see what happens over the next few days or so.
I think I mentioned that I contacted our local Councillor for help chasing up the medical need application from the CCP before we had the appeal date, they said they would try, but then we got the hearing date so it was left at that. I also put a letter in to our GP as DD not getting on with a paediatric phycologist she was sent to for stress management after being in hospital & our original referral was for CAHMS which having spoken with DDs OT team, I realise is more specialised - so I updated our GP on our situation by way of stressing the need for an urgent CAHMs appointment & mentioned awaiting news from the CCP to the GP too - one of these seems to have made a difference :)
No idea which one worked, but this morning I got a phone call cancelling tomorrow's appeal hearing
citing a panel member taking ill as the reason, apologising & that they would reschedule in a few weeks - my gut instinct was something was amiss, as the new CoA sounded as nervous as hell, though they've been very polite, chatty & friendly & know me to be the same, every time I've spoken with them, my first thoughts were that they were not confident in what they had to say at all - though it may be my imagination, I felt they were lying
10 minutes later I get a short succinct email from the SA telling me that they had now been in contact with the CCP & that the CCP has approved DDs medical need application& she is now on the top of the schools waiting list
I've now submitted this email as additional evidence for our appeal as I figured I had nothing to lose, I could see nothing to say that I couldn't as it's not from the school & as they've postponed our hearing, a new appeal date means they surely can't refuse as rules are 7 days ahead of the hearing ???
I've also passed on this change of events & copy of this email to our councillor
No replies as yet, but I feel,like we are finally on the home run & it's going to be interesting to see how they handle this one 
Hope that makes sense - I'm exhausted
Thanks again