How can DS deal with this?

[rollonthesummer]

DS is coming to the end of year 7 (in a boys grammar, if that has any relevance) and has come home recently upset saying some boys (the cool, laid-back ones) are not doing their homework and asking him if they can copy his. He let people a couple of times but then got fed up and said no, so some are being horrible to him and calling him names- gay etc

It sounds silly but he doesn't know how to handle it :( I don't know the extent of it-whether it's lots of boys just asking to copy his? 2 boys who are trying it on with everyone? etc

Any tips- having secondary aged kids is all rather new to me :(

It happens. When Ds got really fed up he started charging them! But I don't recommend that course of action! Suspect the school would have had to take seriously had they found out...And then he started getting things wrong so they gave up.

It will probably be a couple with hangers on, and will feel like everyone. Will he be in the same class next year?

Year 7 is foul. It slowly improves. Yr 9 is okish.

Yes, same class next year. Same form group until year 11, I think!

I just wonder what will happen if he says no/they call him gay and he says, 'whatever' and walks off? Will that be the end of it or will it spiral. I feel a bit useless and don't know what to say :(

He could say he has not done it.

or ring the school my school would deal with this very easily, asking for homework in form and not giving any chance for copying.

Teachers can see something has been copied, im sure

Thank you for the reply. I did think of contacting the school but wasn't sure what to do about it; I didn't want them hauling in the boys and saying, 'don't be mean to poor little x!' which wouldn't help!

I wonder what the school would do?

@Rollon, does your son have a gang of mates to help give him moral strength to stand up to the (supposedly) cool kids?

I think if he gives them a firm no and quietly ignore they will go away to bother someone else, but so frustrating they can give him grief in meantime.

DD (y7) sometimes lets her best mates copy her work in class. I laugh but told her she's taking a risk & I will back the school 100% when they catch her & slap her wrist for it.

The whatever response is usually the best.

But Ds was so badly bullied I had to go to the school and have a couple of changes made. Fortunately it was able to be hung off something that had recently occurred in the press.

He hasn't really got a big group of mates no. His mates from primary (and there weren't many of them) are in different classes. A lot of the children have come together from a local school-so have known each other for years. He hasn't really found a group yet.

Hmmmmm :(