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Being placed on report

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ednamode · 22/05/2014 19:43

Hi Everyone

My child has been placed on report. I have phoned to find out what "being placed on report" means but cannot get info from the school. I have tried again today in person but I have been told that the person responsible for placing her on report ,i.e. the acting head of year, is busy. Can anyone explain to me what "being placed on report" means, also what is the criteria for being placed on report.
Her grades are on target or above in all but 2 of her 14 subjects. she is in year 9.

Many many thanks

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ToffeeMoon · 22/05/2014 20:30

"Standing up for herself"?

Jeez. Is it any wonder....as my retired teacher father used to say.

gamerchick · 22/05/2014 20:30

You need to set up a meeting.. they do not get put on report for uniform. If standing up for herself meant she cheeked a teacher then I would understand being put on report.

Ring the school and request a meeting with somebody.. don't go in all guns blazing and it will do you fine not to just believe everything your kid is telling you.. especially if she knows you have a dislike for somebody in the school.. she will play on that.

BellaVita · 22/05/2014 20:31

There will usually be something recorded on SIMS. All missed detentions, behaviour logs (for good and bad).

whatchatalkinboutwillis · 22/05/2014 20:31

They have uniform reports at our school as well as behavious ones. So if one of the girls has a consistently short skirt after being told to roll it down many times the teacher has to sign a bit of paper at the beginning of the lesson saying that they arrived in full uniform and didn't argue if they were asked to correct it.

gamerchick · 22/05/2014 20:35

You don't need a meeting with the head of year.. her guidance counsellor will be enough or head of form.

ravenAK · 22/05/2014 20:37

The 'proof of bad behaviour' would be members of the staff reporting that behaviour. It is generally at HOY or other staff member responsible's discretion, but usually with a stated number of referrals to trigger the report.

For example, where I work we work on 5 referrals within a half term, which means 5 incidents which have been problematic enough to justify a member of staff filling out the paperwork.

Although if you genuinely think the teaching staff are routinely abusive, I'm surprised you haven't intervened before.

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ednamode · 22/05/2014 20:38

Hi Itsfab
In ans to you question. i can def say do swearing or rude language. but
she would have refused to go to detention if she felt unfairly treated and told them to ring me if they had a prob. she is 14 so emotion can overrule maturity
Hi gamerchick
I will follow the advice and stay calm.
Standing up for herself has been important in the past as she has had to overcome serious issues in her past at avery young age. I cannot afford for her to be tipped emotionally now it has taken us a long time to get to where we are so if i seem a bit over the top there is a reason.

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Ludways · 22/05/2014 20:39

My ds is in year 7 and has been on report for the past two weeks. He's not naughty, far from it, but he's a daydreamer. He's late and dazes out in class. It's just to keep him on the straight and narrow and to keep him focused. I was a bit put out on week 1 and then literally flipped my lid on Sunday when I found a detention slip in his bag. He got some no holds barred home truths about what his future would be unless he knuckled down. He's 12, he can cope with the truth.

Tbh it's been the making of him. He's had a fantastic week and has hit targets in every lesson and his whole attitude to school had changed. Obviously I'll have to keep this up but so far, so good.

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ednamode · 22/05/2014 20:42

Hi Ravenak
You are right I should have intervened before. Too many jobs and too many hours spent working took my eye off the ball thought i was home and dry more or less. how wrong am i

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fourcorneredcircle · 22/05/2014 20:43

You condone her refusing to go to detention? That wod be enough to put her on report for refusing to follow instructions.

ThreeLannistersOneTargaryen · 22/05/2014 20:44

Being on report is not always a punishment. DS1 (Y9) has never had a single detention and we have never had any complaints about his behaviour, but he was put on report for a week last term because the teachers (correctly) observed that he was beginning to make less effort and becoming less engaged in lessons. Being on report helped him to regain his focus.

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ednamode · 22/05/2014 20:49

hi fourcorneredcircle

I should have intervened at this stage> I condoned it bec i realised what was happening.
I phoned the school to ask for an appointment they did not call me back. Getting food on the table and paying the rent got in the way I could kuck myself for that

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ednamode · 22/05/2014 20:50

thats kick by the way

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ravenAK · 22/05/2014 20:57

I think you're long overdue a meeting with school.

You need to listen carefully to their take on your daughter's behaviour.

If she is routinely refusing to follow school rules, then, ultimately, you need to make a decision to either support the school or remove your daughter.

I imagine they'll be happy with either outcome tbh.

fourcorneredcircle · 22/05/2014 20:58

Most 14 year olds do not know how to respond in a way to that sort of situation that allows them to remain polite and courteous. They tend to become rude and aggressive. Many parents would tell their children that if they have such an issue it is best to accept it calmly then explain all when they get home so the parent can take it further. It is just as important to teach children about manners and respect as anything else. I have been in/seen similar situations where children have been unforgivably rude and aggressive and said that their mum will sort it out. Would you still sort it out if she did the same to a police officer? Or her boss?

gamerchick · 22/05/2014 21:02

Don't beat yourself up because you're wrapped up in real life.. kids need to be fed and housed, that is important and when you have a lot on your plate it's just the way it is.

However, refusing detention would get put on report in my sons school.. refusing is usually not dished out calmly by a 14 yr old, they may be at the end of their tether with her.

have you told the school about any past problems so she can be issued with a time out card? You really need to go in and speak to them.. was anything not said at her last target setting day?

gamerchick · 22/05/2014 21:03

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gamerchick · 22/05/2014 21:04

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goofygoober · 22/05/2014 21:13

DS has been on report frequently, and it has helped him to control his behaviour. The school have been fantastic and always email me with updates and their reasons for the decisions to put him on report as well as the targets he needs to set. I need to know what his behaviour is like in school so that we can set up any sanctions or rewards at home too. I'd be pretty annoyed if the school didn't communicate with me, especially after trying to set up a meeting.

That said, leaving him 'on report' for weeks on end has a very negative effect. They all watch him like a hawk and he can't seem to cough in class without being bollocked now.

intheenddotcom · 24/05/2014 08:52

You cannot refuse a report - and at my school refusal of a parent to cooperate with this (e.g. signing report etc.) would end up with student in isolation and parent being asked to look into another school.

Here uniform is part of behaviour, and so can (and does) result in reports. Failure to wear uniform correctly constitutes defiance.

I have a feeling this is not going to end well - by telling your daughter not to go to detentions you are encouraging defiance and unfairly setting her in the middle between you and the school. In the past at my school a similar situation has resulted in the child being p. excluded.

You need to tell your DD to toe the line and order some proper skirts (most uniform shops will order in special sizes). In the meantime agree with the school that you are sorting the skirt and can she wear trousers/tights for a limited time.

You then need to organise a meeting with HOY to calmly get to the bottom of the problems and agree a way forward.

EduardoBarcelona · 24/05/2014 08:55

Oh op. You sound like a nightmare parent. Bet your kid is the same.

noblegiraffe · 24/05/2014 09:09

Your dd cannot use 'other children do x' as an excuse for her doing x when x is breaking the school rules. She needs to forget about what other children are doing and follow the rules if she wants to stay out of trouble. When children try this 'you're picking on me' line, they are usually deaf to anyone else ever being told off.

No, you can't refuse your DD going on report, you and yout DD can't refuse your DD doing detentions, all that will happen is that the refusal will cause an escalation in sanctions.

You do need a face to face meeting with the school as if your DD is going on report you should know what for and what her targets are. But don't go in assuming its a crock of shit and your poor DD is a victim, hear them out first. And don't you try to use other children doing x as an excuse for your DD. If her height is an issue buying uniform, then point that out and ask them for a reasonable solution so that your DD can stop breaking the rules.

RussianBlu · 24/05/2014 17:34

Oh dear. Why would you even think about refusing to have her on report? If my child decided they didn't want to go to detention because they didn't think it was fair I would be giving them a swift kick up the backside. The report will be a card with a few targets to reach everyday such as being polite in each lesson, being on time, contributing to class discussions or whatever, the teacher of each class will have to put a tick or cross for each target and at the end of the day they are added up to see if they reached the required amount of ticks. From what you say it may be because she is a little over confident in standing up for her rights and likes to tell the teachers how it is. You kind of need to roll with it and try not to argue your daughters human rights with the school.

chilephilly · 25/05/2014 17:32

I'm a Head of Year.
Where I am uniform infringements wouldn't get you on report, but rudeness to staff would.
I'd invite you to a meeting to discuss matters. What I'd say would depend on circumstances, but things could well be different to what your dd has chosen to tell you.
Remember that the staff want to help and support you and your dd. It's better to work with them.

TheLateMrsLizCromwell · 25/05/2014 17:51

she would have refused to go to detention if she felt unfairly treated
And you think that is ok? Says it all.

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